Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Have YOU Got the Answer Yet?

Look around you, and tell me what you see on line...

So many Guru's telling you they are an EXPERT!

So many of them promising to tell you how to be successful, but then forget to.

So many of their books saying they are going to change your life but don't.

All those seminars that promise so much but deliver so little...

What about the ones that tell you they are going to 'show you' how to change your life but just go on and on and on about how they changed their own life without giving you ANY details you could take away and implement or any indication of what they did?

Or the people who tell you to just 'Make a Wish' or 'Ask the Universe' for what you want, as if that's all you need to do?

What about the ones who offer you a free information pack and THEN tell you that to find anything usable you have to buy the 25 DVD set or attend the £5000 Seminar to get the information you really want? And even THEN you have to sign up for numerous downloads and books....

What about the think and grow rich people?  OK I admit having the right mindset is key, but...that isn't all of it.  No amount of wishing for something is going to make it materialise.  I agree it focuses your mind on what you want but if you do nothing to go and get what you want, it isn't going to magically appear under its own steam.

'What you think about, and talk about, comes about!'  Have you heard THAT one?  That gem comes from 'The Secret' book and movie.

Here's a secret for you...it is wrong!  Here's the truth: What you think about, talk about, and get off your butt and DO SOMETHING about is what comes about!

You can touch yourself rich!  Really?.....'Touch Yourself Rich' is a program out there where people believe that 'you will get rich if you touch yourself in a certain way!'  Is that right?

You can touch yourself until you are happy, But,  YOU ARE NOT TOUCHING YOURSELF TO GET RICH!  If that worked I would have been a Billionaire by the time I was fourteen!!!!

What IS it with all this stuff?

These are people who got rich by writing books about how to get rich.  Most of these 'Gurus' were not rich, successful, happy or 'living the dream' before they wrote the book.  They wrote the book to get the money, the life, the dream.

Great ideas with the Missing Key.
Seminars that hold back the vital ingredient that makes it work.
Books that promise you something that isn't even in there, the answer you wanted.

These books are very good.  They explain a lot.  They show you what can be achieved.  But there is a problem with them…they ALL miss the most important secret key ingredient that makes the information REALLY work, and work FAST!

That’s why most people who read them do not get results. Most of the people who buy and read these books get all excited about their life changing, getting that new job, new car, new partner and that ability to have some salary left at the end of the month rather than some month left at the end of the salary!  Then, the reality sets in.  They do everything those books suggest and they wait, and they wait, and they wait…and NOTHING has changed! 

Quite naturally, people will believe that they did one of three things:

1. I did something wrong…You didn’t!
2. I didn’t do it right…You did!
3. I missed something...No you didn’t!!

The third one is almost right! In actual fact, you didn’t miss anything, it just wasn’t there!  
It’s very hard to miss something if it isn’t there in the first place.

The fact is that there IS a MISSING KEY that has been PURPOSELY OMITTED from these books and others like them! This KEY INGREDIENT makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE!

Within 24 hours I will tell you how to get it...and I promise...No long term, buy this, buy that, attend this, listen to this snake oil techniques.  Just a very simple 'Here it is'.

Thursday, 10 July 2014

Password Manifestation

Is it the name of your dog?
Your nickname?
Your mothers middle name?
Is it your favourite movie?
Your kid's name?
Superhero, girlfriend, boyfriend...
...wait a moment...

What if it was none of those?

What if it was what you REALLY desired?

How many times a day do you see a box like this?

You see it for Twitter, Facebook, Google+, your email, that forum you belong to, those on line banking accounts you have, your website design program...the list is endless.

I see quite a few people doing what I have been doing for a number of years.  I only did it because I was at a seminar in Switzerland and someone told me THEY did it and I thought 'That's for me'.

How often do you see this graphic above?

Do you also see this message sometimes: “Your password has expired. Click ‘Change password’ to change your password.”

That is a GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY to make something you desire MANIFEST in your world.

Instead of using the same old tired passwords why not tell the Universe exactly what you are focusing on?

Can you really keep asking for something from the universe again and again out loud?  No!  Not in company you can't...not if you are in the office you can't.  People will think you are nuts.  (I CAN do it actually, people have always thought I was nuts ;-))

But by changing your passwords into your wish or your command you can!

My business on line banking password was (and i repeat WAS!).... M4keM00reMoney.  I used that for a long time and money was being paid in regularly by clients.

What about
g3tanewcar?
St4yH3althy/
Smokele$$?
Eatw3ll?
BeSucce$$ful?

These small actions keep what we desire in the forefront of our minds and they tell the Universe, 'this is the direction I am travelling'.  I am a firm believer that The Law of attraction on it's own is useless.  Sitting around wishing for something will not make it happen, you have to do something to show your determination, drive and desire for it and the Universe will comply.  The last two syllables of Attraction are ACTION.  Action is the key.  Do SOMETHING to get nearer and nearer to your desires and make them happen.

The Universe is moving all the time to conspire and make your dreams come true but you have to do your part and these very simple, underused but simple and powerful Password changes, used effectively like this, will keep your desires, your dreams and your future on track because you are continually reminded of them and you reinforce them EVERY time you type them.

Dream big, live large.

Monday, 7 July 2014

Consistency...an Every Day Regime!

What we do every day, on a regular basis, defines us.

It is the key to success.

This has got me thinking and I can see the parallels with business success, personal success and this keep fit regime of mine.

I have been working out a routine, and a diet, and the lifestyle changes to make the dramatic change I need and I am made aware of how this is exactly like our routines we need to do consistently to be a success in life and business.

I am about to embark on a punishing fitness regime. After 5 years of semi sedentary lifestyle (on Doctors and Surgeons orders) I now have the complete, final, 100% go ahead to get back to my fitness level prior to the Terminator 2 style car crash I had in France that damaged my lower back which I posted about the other week.  I am also going to be holding some seminars in various parts of the world and, yes, I do understand that travelling and hotels do not, necessarily, act as conducive elements to getting fit.  The convenience food, the elaborate hotel menus and the travelling taking up so much time that it can inhibit exercise time.

I could make an even worse decision and...wait for a better time or even the right time to start.

I say even worse decision because how do we know when the right time is?  We can always do something other than what we need to do, so putting off starting could lead to never starting.  Waiting for the right time could mean the right time is never the right time.

No, the right time is NOW and success comes to people who keep going, keep doing, and never give up.

I know that what we consistently do, on a daily basis, are the incremental steps that become habits, GOOD habits, routines that shape and form our objectives.

Each step is a step nearer to our goal.  Each routine or habit is a refinement.

"So what's with the pic of someone drinking water?" I hear you ask...

How many times, even though we know we should do things daily, do we try to catch up and cram it all in on one day?

I tell people to carry a notebook and write down things they think of or are told.  Sometimes they forget and at the end of the week think 'Hmm what was that again?' and write all manner of stuff in one big hit.

Perhaps they need to do something daily at work but they don't.  After a few days they play catch up..and things never turn out as they hoped.

Our daily routines are massively important, in business, leadership and life.

Not only that but when we fail to complete the daily tasks, and we cheat by trying to cram all the work in at the end of the week, it is highly dangerous and can be fatal for the business, the company and you!

According to my instructor, I should drink 1.5 to 2 litres of water a day.  If I do that consistently, on a daily basis, out of routine or habit, then it will have such a beneficial effect on me that I can not only see the results, as in glowing skin, hydrated body etc etc within two weeks, the long term benefits are staggering.  Whats more, there is NO DETRIMENTAL effect to me, quite the opposite.

If I forget, if I just drink tea, coffee or soda then guess what?

At the end of the week I may think "Hmmm that 1.5 to 2litres a day....I missed a week of doing that...so...that totals to 14 litres for the week, I know...TODAY I WILL DRINK THE WEEKS SUPPLY, 14 LITRES OF WATER!"

That will not have just an adverse effect....it will KILL ME!  
My system will be overloaded...not by anything bad for me, the water is GOOD for me, it is just the amount of it in one hit.  It has to be spread out on a daily, and consistent, basis.

It is the same with those daily routines and steps for work and success.  If you are serious about being successful, do things consistently, every day. Otherwise if you try and play catch up, and you do all those good things that you should have done on a daily basis in one go...even though they are as harmless and as life preserving as the water,  because you are overloaded...you will kill the business!

Success comes from:
Doing the right things DAILY
Sticking to Your plan of action and...
Being Consistent!

Wednesday, 25 June 2014

Salespeople who speak KLINGON

The Salesman Talks Klingon to a Customer!

So there I was browsing in the computer shop. Looking at all of the interesting toys and gizmo’s on display. I saw a laptop exactly the same as mine. Same spec, everything. Well, apart from one crucial thing: it was £80 less than I paid the other week.

As I was silently congratulating myself on my immaculately timed purchase (!) I became aware of a man and a boy looking at a desktop PC next to me. The man was middle aged and scratching the side of his face as he stared at the PC with what I describe as a ‘rabbit caught in the car headlights’ look.

The boy said, “Dad, we really need something that’s fast!”

I watched the man as he rubbed his cheek.

‘Don’t scratch your chin, pal’ I thought, ‘That’s a sure-fire invitation. It's a buying signal. It tells the salesperson you want information.’
He rubbed his chin. From nowhere the salesman appeared. He pointed at the PC the man and boy had been looking at.

“Great choice. E6990 Intel core QX6700 processor; 90GB DDR2 memory; External DL DVD RW-CD-RW and DVD-ROM/CD-RW drives; 800GB SATA 150 hard drive. It’s hard core!”

“Oh, right” the Dad said, nodding his head.

I was impressed. He was giving a very good impersonation of someone who had understood what he had been told. In fact he hadn’t a clue what he had been told. He could have been given the location of the Holy Grail and he was none the wiser. It sounded to me like the salesman was speaking in Klingon.

The salesman stood looking at the Dad as he weighed up the situation. After a few seconds the Dad said, “Thank you, we’ll have a look around.” And walked to the door dragging the kid behind him. I watched him walk out the shop. I turned and looked at the salesman and he was looking puzzled. He was wondering what was wrong with the guy.

I could have told him, but think about this...
Always communicate with people in the same way THEY speak and think, and not the way YOU speak and think.

This is crucial and never more so than when selling over the phone.

1. Listen very carefully to words and phrases they use to describe situations, needs, desires and problems. Write down the relevant ones.

2. Question to get explanations on ones that you don’t fully understand, or maybe even seem foreign to you. For example, “When you say you want something that’s fast, what exactly are we talking about? What will you be using it for?”

3. Use their language when presenting your sales message recommendations. Sell them on the results, using the language they understand. “...and with this machine your son’s games will run twice as fast as on that old machine you said you have now. Plus, you won’t have to sit and wait for it to grind through those spreadsheets you mention you run...”

Don’t sell the means; people buy the end!!!

If you are going to go fishing, bait your hook with something the fish likes and not YOUR favourite food.

Don't 'assume' your client is as clued up as you...think about it...it's your job to know what it does, it's their job to use it.

Pace yourself and mirror the customer.

And remember this:
"The trouble with talking too fast is you may say something you haven’t thought of yet."

Tuesday, 22 April 2014

Overview of HPT-Transformation Training

The HPT Standard Training is a form of participatory theatre.  It is like a drama with one major overriding difference: Although a catharsis is one of the aims, it ALSO aims to bring the STAR of the drama, each participant to an experience of themselves which is the transformation itself.

To get the most out of HPT I recommend that you don’t try to figure it out.  If you don’t make an effort to understand it…you will probably understand it.  The ULTIMATE way to understand it is to experience it so this is merely an overview without the benefit of reality.

The reality is total immersion.  Four 10 hour days.  40 Hours of transformation technology, and usually more.  The training has been known to go on until 1am.

The setting of the training is arduous and the content is irreverent and intrusive.  You cannot get sympathy from this environment.

Within this setting a number of things take place but let’s look at three of them:

First: There are presentations that are given by the trainer. Either myself or one of my trainers will run the program. We provide information and philosophical analysis, distinctions and definitions, we monitor and give evidence of the differing levels of experience.

Second: The sharing of information and experiences and the questions from the participants.  They are encouraged but not required to share their experiences, what’s happening to them, their problems.

Third: there are the processes, the exercises that may be done in an altered state that stems from what’s called an Autogenic Relaxation Method. The exercises take place in the room as a group or individually or in pairs. They are done sitting down, standing up or lying on the floor.  Eyes closed, eyes open.

The exercises and activities are designed to bring out the various levels of unconscious into the light.

People have peak experiences during the training.  The aim is not to make that happen for its OWN sake, but to transform the trainee’s ability to experience.

We give a contextual shift: from deficiency orientation to sufficiency orientation.  From a context of where things in your life are arranged in such a way to make you satisfied to an experience of being satisfied RIGHT NOW and organising things in your life around that.

The training promises an encounter with the self.  The person you were destined to be.  The REAL you.  You need to connect to the real you, the real you that all this useless ‘stuff’ is hiding.  We strip you back to nothing, so that the person you really are can see and recognise the person you were meant to be.

The only true way to create something is to create it from NOTHING!  If you try to create something from something, you are just CHANGING or ALTERING something.  In order to create something you first have to be able to create NOTHING.

HPT is a self-confrontation experience.  This confrontation is not with one’s self, but the truth about one’s self.  It includes elements of Zen, Buddhism, Taoism, philosophy, Cybernetics, Psychology, NLP and NeuroScience.

We conduct a context where a siege is mounted on the mind.  This is to identify and examine the presuppositions of the trainees positionality and break up the existing wiring of the mind.

The essence of HPT is that it produces and IS what you get.  People dis-identify from their minds, bodies, emotions and problems, which is the story of their lives.  The training room is a safe environment so that you can step back and look at yourself instead of being forced to be yourself or defend yourself.

Every time your mind attempts to justify a concept you have about who you are or the truth about who you are, HPT will puncture it.  When this happens often enough, you start to be in silence.  It is then that you experience the truth.  That truth is: You Are.

While each of us knows that, the training allows people to know it experientially with their whole and entire being.  We bring suppressed emotions to the surface so they can be experienced.

The training gives people the opportunity to be with all of the things which you have kept hidden or under the surface.  As one by one those hidden things come up, they appear to be an enormous burden on physical, mental and emotional systems.   Underneath the things people don’t allow themselves to experience is the experience of their own truth.

The Value of knowledge is determined by the way in which it is known.  This means, it’s not only WHAT you know, but HOW you know it, that determines how you USE what you know. 

We are stuck in our system of beliefs.  Our lives are based on the idea that what we believe is actually so.  In reality, what we believe is based on a system of agreements which just symbolise what is so.  Our language or system of knowing is not experiential.  They just symbolise our experience.  Language just conveys something ABOUT experience.

HPT introduces Real Knowing through a form of direct exposure.  It’s called abstract learning.

It’s beyond believing.  It’s beyond thinking.  It’s beyond feeling.  It’s beyond sensing and beyond doing.  It’s akin to one of those moments when it all suddenly becomes clear after you have been working for days on a problem. 

Without the addition of new information or facts, a clarity unfolds, and you see the facts in a new way, which dissolves the problem and reveals the truth. 

Four areas of concern are:
1.      Mind Structure.  This is the structure of our thoughts and a condition of how we work now.  The organizational principle.  Mind structures are not built on beliefs or specific belief systems or attitudes.  Mind Structures GOVERN ALL belief systems attitudes and viewpoints that arise IN the mind state.  All of those things must conform to the mind structure.  They govern what we know that we know and believe what we believe.  During the training the trainees context and organizing structure of the mind state is on show.
2.      Mind Traps. These are resentment, regret, self-righteousness.  Anyone continually tripped by the Mind trap will always be working from within the context of the trap.
3.      Mind Stories.  Each person has stories, experiences, beliefs which determine how their life is lived.
4.      Mind Repression. Unconscious contents that are occasionally conscious.  Individual traumatic occurrences.  A Freudian repression of behaviour from the past.

All four areas may need to be dealt with but it is much more empowering to deal with the first of the four categories than the second or third or fourth.

There is a major flaw in psychotherapy and most of the self help movement.  Napoleon hill, Maxwell Maltz, the majority of the elite ‘gurus’ of personal development, psychoanalysts like Freud  are preoccupied with the third and fourth categories.  Focusing on the past can JAM that person deeper and deeper into the Mind system.

We give analysis, and experience in an experiential environment where the trainees TAKE PART in the exercises and training.  Explanation ALONE gives no power.  Mastery comes from realization of a philosophical context which operates out of the first two categories.  Looking and studying and referencing past experiences as a template for the future does not work.

Past, unempowering, limiting beliefs and memories do not serve you but the majority of people engage again and again with them.

The past is something a lot of people tend to carry around with them.  They reference it, they think about it, they look at it, they let it change their minds, they let it cloud their judgements and even worse, they carry it into their future. 

If you are looking ahead, into the future, you want to fill that big open area with all manner of great, positive, useful stuff but…you have your past in there, taking up a load of room.  We say, ‘drop it’…you don’t need to carry it around with you and you certainly don’t want your past to limit the amount of space you have to fill in the future.

HPT is about experience.  Patterns and problems continue to appear but instead of acting them out, dramatizing them, one begins to experience them and thereby one ‘experiences them out’.

The training itself is, as I said, about total and complete immersion.  Four 10 hour days, minimum. Usually, it’s longer than that.  Time is not the issue.  We aim for 9am to 7pm.  More often than not, the training is 9am to 9pm.

Day one is mainly conceptual and not experiential at all.  It begins at a level where most people operate from, at a level of concepts.  The trainees confront conceptual systems that devastatingly limit and shape them on a daily basis.

Day two consists of the Trainees bringing a statement of an unwanted condition that persists or a problem.  We go over them in detail only to find that the trainees persist in conceptualization.
Their statements are narrative rather than experiential.
We then take them through the truth process. Many of them experience the disappearance of the problems.  Then we take them through the Danger process.  This does two things.  They experience their own position and they experience the fear that drives them to hold on to that problem.

Day three is when we question the very nature of reality.  We help rehabilitate the powers of imagination and the experiential reality of the trainees.

Day four is the discussion day where we discuss The Compartments of the Mind.  This is where we lay siege on the mind.  This powerful lecture like discussion stuns the trainees into a state of horror.  By now they can take a concept and experientialise it.  They hit Rock Bottom.  But it is at that moment they realise that they are NOT their minds or their positions, or their beliefs: and they have falsely identified with them and created ego.  At that point, they blow their mind, they transcend their mind, and the siege has ended.  We give them the opportunity to experience choice and responsibility.

The Understanding of the Self follows.  This is experienced after you have transcended the mind, you experience it directly.
The Self is without position, it is space. Space to move, breath, create without content; it’s the context or matrix – it has no form, no process or content, no position, but it gives rise to them. This is who you really are.  The trainees are now transformed, and the training is ended.

Transformation:
A transformed person is one who tells the truth and who understands that Experience and reality are the only beliefs.
A transformed environment or business is one where the truth can be told.

Tuesday, 15 April 2014

A Million Dollar/Pound/Euro Lesson!

“Always carry a notebook”:
Aristotle Onassis.

Why? Simple. You try and remember everything you see and hear on a daily basis. There are so many ideas, bits of information, names, words, slogans, websites and people that pass through your mind that you will never remember them. If you see as many people as I do, and speak to as many people as I do, on a daily basis then you would realize that a Journal or notebook is invaluable.


I don't mean a computer or iPad either. I mean a Journal or Notebook that you write in by hand.

This is the single most valuable piece of advice I have ever had.

I carry a black moleskin notebook at all times and I always have a small black moleskin notebook in a jacket pocket. I always carry a pen but if you want to, go into any betting shop or catalogue showroom that has those little pens for customers use, grab a handful and put one in the pocket of every jacket you own.

I then read what I have written at the end of the day or week, or if I am taking a break or being driven somewhere in the car and all the stuff I think I need to keep I transfer into an A4 size Journal.

I have about 20 of those...full.

Not only did Onassis live by this belief but so too does Richard Branson. (Click his name to read his thoughts on notetaking!)  Everywhere he goes he carries a notebook.  It is IMPOSSIBLE to remember EVERYTHING you think and read and hear.

You can watch something, listen to something or experience something but if you WRITE IT DOWN it becomes hardwired into your brain. What's more...you start to understand it a lot better if you write it down.

I went and saw my friend Ross Jeffries one day in London when he was presenting a training program and he wanted to chat over Lunch. I had taken with me, in my bag, one of my journals from four years earlier when he had spoken to a group before and I had been there.

(I make a hell of a lot of notes)

During the afternoon session he started to tell the group of a poem he had written many years ago, a funny one about Speed Seduction and NLP techniques...but he couldn't remember it!

Out came the journal and he was amazed to see it written there from four years ago. Afterwards he told me 'Jeez, that journal is impressive'.

I was impressed he could read my handwriting!!!

The point is this. If you get an idea, write it down. If you hear a remark and think it's interesting, write it down.

Whenever you engage in any form of interaction, if you use persuasion, speed seduction, embedded commands, language patterns, sales pitches...write down everything.

What do I mean?

1. Where you were. If you went to a coffee shop write down 'went to coffee shop'!!!

2. Name of person you spoke to.

3. What you said.

4. responses.

5. Outcome.

Then...yes, you read it back and analyse it.

"When you meet someone, write down everything you know about them. That way you know how much time to give them next time."
- Aristotle Onassis

Write down everything. Phone numbers, web addresses, names, tips, ideas, plans, phrases….
I guarantee that if you don’t write it down you will try to remember it later and that’s all you will do, ‘try’.
Believe me, 'try' is a very bad word and you need to eliminate it from your vocabulary.

You won’t remember it if you haven't written it down. If, by some miracle you do manage to remember what you wanted to remember, I also guarantee that something else will drop out of your memory to make way for it.

Want to risk it? No, I didn't think you would!

Here is the latest entry just to prove the point! >>>

Monday, 24 March 2014

Who Will You Meet?

One of the most repeated questions when anyone signs up for the HPT-Transformation seminar is: 'Who will
I meet?'

Everyone wonders who else is going to be there, from what walk of life, from what business, from what location.

I always give the same answer if it is me they are asking.
"You will meet a lot of people, but one person will stand out among all the others. That is the most important person you will meet. Yourself!"

When I say "You will meet yourself" I mean the various versions of yourself.

You will meet your Social Self.
This is the person everyone thinks they are.  It's the self that's familiar, comfortable and automotive.

Next, you will meet the person you're afraid to find out about, the one you are afraid to find out that you are.
That is the terrible person you try to hide with your social self.
You will see exactly what and who is hiding under the mask you label 'Personality'.

Finally, you will meet who you REALLY are!
And you will be amazed to know that until you meet that person, you will have no idea who that is!

Who you believe you are bears no relation to the reality of who you really are.

Who you really are is far more powerful, far more capable, and far more YOU than you have EVER been in your life up to that moment!

Level of Thought

I have no idea if this is a quote from Einstein.

It is attributed to him but there are a lot of books, websites and forums that say it is a quote merely attributed to him. There is no emperical proof that he said it.

Whoever said it was absolutely right though!

A problem is created from a level of thought.  Once we create that problem, or the circumstances that create that problem, we have to change that thought process to fix it.  If we don't, we will be forever bound to the mindset of problem creating and not problem fixing.

We make one major mistake!

We assume that a higher level of thinking is required to solve the issue.  This kind of thinking, as has been demonstrated over the years, is totally wrong!

Sometimes it takes ages, years, for someone to come up with an answer.  That's because of two reasons.
1. They are working along the same guidelines, principles and thought processes that created the problem in the first place, and
2. They are so close and engaged with the problem from a perception of 'solving' that they can see nothing other than the problem.

Amateurs have been known to solve very complex problems that scientists have laboured over for years.

People can get 'caught up' in a problem.  They engage with it, stay with it and eventually see nothing but the problem.

But sometimes, a fresh pair of eyes, like a consultant with no need to conform to red tape, policy, protocols and guidelines can look at something and see exactly what needs to be altered, changed or transformed to make it work.

Examples:


A truck is travelling along a country lane; the driver takes a blind bend and sees a low-level bridge straight in front of him. He hits the brakes, but he’s too late. The truck slides into the bridge and is stuck fast. The driver attempts everything but his truck just wont move. Hours later the Police and Fire brigade are there trying to release the truck. The road is closed off and it’s starting to get dark. The Firemen are just about to start dismantling the bridge when a small child rides past on his pushbike. He looks up at the Police and shouts "Hey, Mister, why don’t you let the tyres down?" 
---------- 
A delegation of Dutch prison officers visit an English prison and are amazed at a very large and expensive looking piece of steel machinery on wheels.  It has claws, a battering ram and large pistons.
“What's that?”  They ask.
The prison governor puffs his chest out and says:
“This is the latest state of the art piece of kit to deal with prisoners barricading themselves in their cell.  It can push the door in and then clamp and lift the door off.  It costs £150,000.  I bet you would like one of these to deal with your prisoners who barricade themselves in!”
“No need,” explains the Dutch official. “All our cell doors open outwards.”


Sometimes the obvious is just TOO obvious to be seen if you focus on the problem rather than the solution. 


Saturday, 8 March 2014

Identity


The way a person rationalises in a contextual framework of significance and evaluates previous actions, feelings and thoughts is what provides them with an identity. The alternative is to be able to be aware of the present situation and to recognize they are the cause of experience and to have aliveness. This detachment frees you from what are identifying with. 

To do this you only need to be aware that you are the source of that with which you previously identified. Unfortunately so many people act with an identity that is a monument to their past. The person comes to view themselves and their life as the result of what has happened to them. This "point of view" gives them the illusion that they"know" why events occur and the "whys" almost always are seen as existing outside their control.

The funtion of "being" is based on the reality of the moment of existence.  Being is the awareness, the recognition and the attention to the experience at hand. Furthermore, it is at the cause of experience. It is to "be" something rather than to "have" or "do" something. 

The functions of mind and being are that as one dominates the other recedes, rather like those clocks that have a man and a woman taking turns to come out depending upon the weather. The point of view, once you have established it, tends to perpetuate itself so if a point of view about oneself or others is threatened by new information, the records of the old experience come into play, and determine the current behavior and limit any sense of being.

"It is the dominance of the mind function, the need to protect an identity rooted in past experience, that limits a person's satisfaction and sense of completion. For instance, an individual who views himself as an unhappy person will act to protect this point of view and, in order to be right (another function of the mind), will continue to be unhappy. The person as a mind or identity will justify, explain and find reasons to support his unhappiness. He will even find it righteous to be unhappy, and yet this activity will never bring the sense of satisfaction desired. His action will be grounded in the past, and it will deny him a full participation in the present."


EXAMPLES DETAILING IDENTITY DIFFERENCES


Some of the common attitudes and activities associated with the protection of identity include the need to be right while making others wrong, the need to dominate the situation while reducing the effect of others, the need for self-justification that results in the invalidation of the ideas of others and the sense of self-righteousness that provides an illusion of survival. Self-righteousness, for example, can take various forms, such as the attitudes that "I am poorer than thou," "I'm more stupid than thou," and "I'm more tragic than thou." It generates a kind of reverse superiority.


These are patterns of behavior that most of us demonstrate in our daily lives. They are not necessarily the gross examples that have come to be associated with cases of neurotic or psychotic personalities. The "point of view" is a function that we all possess, and it is that aspect of our lives that limits our ability to be authentic, to create new experiences and to see life as it exists in the present. Patterns of behavior that are expressed in the need for success-or inferiority or superiority-can dominate an individual's life, as in the case of the neurotic, or can be found in the everyday games played by normal individuals. In each situation the persuasiveness of the point of view limits the individual's experience of aliveness and likewise affects the relationships he establishes.


The example of a person who develops an attitude of inferiority based on early experiences will serve to illustrate the mind's dedication to its own survival as well as demonstrate the resulting pattern of personal relationships. If early experiences have diminished a person's feelings about himself, he will tend to act out these feelings in subsequent behavior. Reinforcement may come from old interpretations of new interactions and he may come to expect or create further personal devaluation. Over time this pattern, this point of view, becomes more thoroughly substantiated and the individual assumes the identity of inferiority. The individual also develops reasons to explain his feelings and behavior and these help to defend him against any threat from situations that do not support his concept of personal inferiority. Within this context the mind is dominant and behavior is automatic no matter how well explained.


For the identity of inferiority to remain whole and right the activities of those who attempt to help will be perceived as wrong, just as those who attempt to criticize will be wrong. The helper will fail in his attempt to change the individual; the critic will receive blame as the source of negative feelings. The person with inferior feelings ultimately considers himself right because "It's the way things are," and "I can't help it." Each attitude is controlled or dominated by the condition of inferiority; a condition based on a point of view developed in the past and defended to protect a sense of identity.


While this is an exaggerated example, it expresses the model for everyday situations in many of our lives. It demonstrates the purpose and methods involved in the way we deal with disagreeable situations, differences of opinion, upsets with others, disappointments and unfulfilled expectations and the infinite variety of circumstances perceived as threats to our personal identity. This identity is at odds with a clear perception of the present, with an acknowledgment of responsibility and a personal sense of aliveness and satisfaction.

Monday, 3 March 2014

Reflection on Transformation

Image by Angela Goodeve
www.coachingwithang.com
After a few weeks of travelling and presenting Transformation seminars in Jersey and in London I am glad to
be able to say, I am home for a week.

I came home from the London seminar just in time to take part in a Google Hangout with +Connie Avila-Von Leitner for her #GlobalTransformationShow.  It was a pleasure and an honour to speak with her about Transformation.
The result can be seen on my website here: mooreconsortium.com/mediapage or on Connies site at ConnieImage or on YouTube.
Connie is a very intelligent and knowledgeable lady and it was great to hangout with her and talk about a subject that is core to both of our businesses.

The Jersey seminar was a blast, as you can read from my previous post.  This was a seminar for personal Transformation and used the pure HPT-Transformation program.

The London Seminar was "Transforming Bosses into Leaders".
An unusual concept as most people only tend to consider someone else as a boss or a leader but here, we presented a program to people, managers and directors who are already in a position of 'authority' but want to run their company from a position of Leader rather than Boss.

It is clear to see that the distinction between Boss and Leader is evident in our society and the benefits of being a Leader rather than a Boss are important, not only to the people being led but the person leading.

The qualities are quite different, and the abilities are different, but dealing with the mindset is another thing entirely and it was a very valuable seminar for all concerned, especially US as we learn just as much as the people we teach.

The Consortium will be rolling out the new 'Transforming Bosses into Leaders' program soon and further information will be available on the website.

Friday, 21 February 2014

Thank You Jersey!!

We have had so much fun this last couple of days running the HPT-Transformation program in Jersey.

We had 280 people in the Fort Regent complex on the cliff above St Helier. That's it, the white spaceship on top of the hill in the pic.  http://www.jerseyconferencing.com/fortregent.html

I have held 11 firewalks for various charities at Fort Regent and it was a real pleasure to be able to premier the basic HPT program here at this wonderful Venue.

For many, the journey from being trapped, blinkered, and stuck to total transformation into a free, focused, vibrant, confident and realised being was difficult and some serious work took place to strip people back to nothing, but we did it.

I would like to thank my two facilitators Carl and Karen for ensuring that everyone ‘got it’. I am proud of you both, you are true 'Belongers'.

An 8:30am start and an 11:30pm finish seem like long days but, as I said in the training, “it’s important, it’s the future…your Future!”

Some of the biggest takeaways this week were:

1. Don’t focus on your past, you don’t live there anymore.
2. I don’t profess to have all the answers, I just know what works.
3. This is the crack in the wall through which you will see the world.
4. Here is where it is, now is where it is, you are what it is.
5. Remove the pressure you didn’t know you had.
6. The past has nothing to do with who you are and how you act in the present.
7. People don’t get stuck in what happened to them, they get stuck in the significance of that event.
8. It’s not about what you know or what you don’t know. It’s about what you don’t know about what you don’t know.
9. There are certain things you can only know by creating them yourself.
10. Instead of looking around for a leader, we should look for the leader within ourselves.
11. Irrespective of conditions or outside influence, transformation can happen at any time. People have the ability to Transform.
12. It’s not what you think that changes your life; it is the space in which that thinking takes place.
13. Common Sense isn’t all that common.
14. You have to live your life in a ‘you AND me’ world and not a ‘you OR me’ world.
15. The majority of people are motivated by the avoidance of what they don’t want rather than the attainment of what they do want.
16. If you create a context of wellbeing in your life, the circumstances in your life will reflect that.
17. You are living in the past at today’s prices.

Thank you again to Fort Regent, The Pomme D’or Hotel, The L’Horizon Hotel, the Old Court House, and everyone that has made this three day event the success it was.

Thank you to every one of the people that attended and took part in the Training.  
I know you will now soar.
What you don't know is, I learned so much from all of you...Thank you
Dave Moore

Monday, 17 February 2014

Contextual Framing


CONTEXT

Definition: the circumstances that form the setting for an event, statement, or idea, and in terms of which it can be fully understood.

One of the factors of the HPT-Transformation training is the directness.

The confrontational manner in which the training is presented shocks some people at the very start. After a while they take the loud, direct, powerful and confrontational manner of the training to be the norm.  They don't get 'used' to it...they simply accept it as 'that's how it is'. 

I have always believed that the training has to be that way.  It has always had that element of confrontation, wherever and to whoever I have presented it. A Seminar room with paying attendees or within a maximum security prison, the format is ALWAYS the same, because it works.

It is a wake up call and there must be a shock to the system to jolt the recipient of the training into change, reaction, self questioning and accountability.  The context of the training program, indeed the context of the training environment we create (in essence, the space for HPT to be completely effective) is a strict regime.

This in itself is unusual as it puts a group of people into an environment where the contextual frame and content is far removed from what they are used to on a quotidian basis.

Today, in St Helier in Jersey, the training session for a taster of HPT-Transformation took place.  One of the things that struck me was the contextual frame from which the training took place in comparison to the contextual frame the attendees were used to.  It became apparent to me and my two colleagues that context is a major factor in growth, experience and usuality.

Most people work from within a contextual framework. Unfortunately, this frame is too limiting for them on a long term basis.  Like a comfort zone, unless it is stretched and widened, no growth can take place or be achieved.
Life begins where your comfort zone ends!

When some people see an accident on the motorway where people die horribly and one can see the blood and mangled car and, in some cases the people, some people will faint.  Unfortunately, human nature means that people in other cars will slow down to have a look at the accident because they don't want to miss any experience.  In truth, they are just nosey.  They feel entitled to see.  The excitement takes over but then another feeling kicks in for many of them, they feel faint, nauseous and they pass out.

Anyone watching surgery for the first time will likely as not faint.  Anyone watching any medical procedure, from an autopsy to a minor operation, will feel, or may indeed, faint.

The reason is because the scene they are witnessing sits outside of the contextual framework they live in.

A surgeon, a traffic cop, a paramedic...they see this every single day, so it is WITHIN their quotidian Contextual Framework.

The HPT Training is not unusual to us because it sits within our contextual frame.  Some of the questions, presentations, directness, and even the training process itself is so far outside the context of the people taking the training it allows us to cut through the barriers, obstructions and masks that people wear on a daily basis.

We speak to the real person.  Not who they are at the time, or who they think they are.  We talk to who they REALLY are, behind all the masks and stuff that hides that.

Our authenticity is our contextual framework.  We sit outside their context and then we enter their framework and THIS allows us to strip them Back to Nothing, speak to the real them, and help them Transform.


"This is all about becoming the person you were DESTINED to be!   You need to release the REAL you!  That's right! The REAL you, the one that you were, the one that all this useless 'stuff' is hiding.......We need to strip you back. Back to NOTHING...so that the person you were meant to be recognizes the person you really are, and takes you into a future of endless possibility!" ~ Dave Moore



Tuesday, 11 February 2014

Don’t Try – Just Do it!




Yoda said,
“Try not. Do or do not. There is no try”.



(Well it was Frank Oz actually but I didn't want to ruin the moment!)

If I tell you, “I tried to open the door”, you know I didn’t open it. If someone tells you they will “try to be there” you can guarantee that they will not be there.

Try is another word for fail, unless you play rugby of course.

Don’t even think about trying to do something, do it and be determined that you will ‘do it’. If not, you will merely try.

Here are a couple of things to forget.

“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try and try again”.
Why bother? If you don’t succeed, make sure you do it next time. Or hide all evidence you attempted it.

And:

“The whole world loves a tryer”.
Of course they do. People love tryers because they never really achieve anything and it makes them feel better to have someone less successful than them around.

You must be a do’er and not a try’er.

Achieve things and be a success.
If you are not, don’t try to be. Just Be a success! 

Be the person you were DESTINED to be!

Saturday, 8 February 2014

Business Unusual

If you are going to do Business, you really need to do Business Unusual.

Not just today, but everyday, and not just for the people or companies that you think would appreciate it or 'get it'.

Doing things differently from others is the only way you can guarantee that you will 'stand out', which is really what 'OutStanding' is all about.

In this day and age, being different is the key factor.  It is the factor that sets you apart from your competition.

I enjoy getting away into the country, to get away from the hectic pace of London and airports and meetings and training and phone calls and more meetings...etc (yawn) to just chill out, so my place in the Ashdown Forest (Winnie the Pooh country!) is my retreat.  With a mountain of paperwork and a large pot of coffee I work my way through a weekend.  Occasionally I do nothing but read books or the newspapers.  Tom and his wife May keep an eye on the property when no one is there.  Tom spends most of his time walking around the grounds and the forest with a 12 bore shotgun looking for anything he can shoot for May to cook for dinner.  Having seen him miss quite a few I think it is one of the reasons I rarely go out walking in the forest when down there!

A few weeks ago I made a decision that shocked everyone...I was going out on the Saturday afternoon.

I walked through the forest and said hello to a few people walking their dogs, navigated a few herds of sheep who stand next to the narrow roads and act like live speed cameras, making drivers slow down in case they suicidally jump in front of the cars, and the steady stream of horse riders who were travelling in groups through the forest.

Eventually, after 45 minutes, I reached the main entrance to the forest and the main road that leads into Tunbridge Wells.  There is a village called Crowborough nearby which I lived in for 2 years and when I walked through it, I was amazed to find it now had 12 hairdressers/ barbers.  TWELVE!

Who in the planning office thought THAT was a good idea.   Each one I walked past had 1 or 2 people inside either having their hair cut or waiting.  I was looking for one particular hardressers.  Not the cheapest, not the most expensive...but the best.

I found it on the road leading off of the high street.

'Diamond Geezers' is the barbers.  As I walked in I saw three men cutting hair and 8 people waiting.

The owner, one of the men cutting hair, is Josh and he made me feel welcome, told me to help myself to the coffee machine, read a newspaper or watch TV.  I would be waiting 15min.

30min later, having got my hair trimmed, I paid him £15, which was a lot less than the £55 in London, and left knowing I would be back.....

I walked back past the other hairdressers, most of them empty, some charging £22 per haircut, with no facilities, no welcome, no atmosphere, no laughter, no banter, no enjoyment....and no idea where they were going wrong.  Their opening times were 9 to 5.30 Monday to Saturday, closed Wednesday afternoon.

Diamond Geezers is open from 730 am (for people on their way to work) and closes at 7pm at night (for people on their way home from work). They are open every day and are busy all day.  They open for four hours on Sunday for people who cant make it during the week.

They do Business Unusual....they do everything that the others don't do.

The Belongers!

How interesting it is to see that in some areas of this vast world, areas known as British Overseas Territories STILL have the right to classify people as 'Belonger' and 'Non Belonger' as you can read here: BELONGER STATUS.

I remember Richard Branson saying that he had fallen in love with the signage that the British Virgin Islands arrivals building has in the immigration hall saying ' Belongers' and 'NonBelongers' in place of 'Resident' and NonResident'.   I have fallen for that sign too.

I really fell for the term when I arrived at the Airport in Provodenciales in Turks and Caicos and saw for real the same signs in the arrivals hall.
I totally wanted to be a BELONGER!

How extraordinarily Powerful is the word 'Belonger'?

Nothing says more about how a country feels about you than when it tells you it thinks you belong there.

Perhaps we should use the term more often?

I have started to use the word for people who work for me at the Moore Consortium.  I think a lot of Communities should use the term BELONGERS for their members too.

What if your company had Belongers rather than Employees?  Would your 'belongers' feel more involved, included, appreciated?

When your people 'belong' where they are, it breeds a whole new form of loyalty.  They believe that they make a difference, not only to the company but to everyone around them.

What a great difference it makes when a nation decides that it's people BELONG HERE there rather than just 'living' or 'existing' here.

How Powerful would it be for a company, or a community, to decide that it's employees or members 'Belonged There' rather than just 'worked there', or were just members?

How about getting rid of the name Human Resources or HR Dept?  I hear employees call it Human Remains or Human Reburial Department!  I admit, many years ago during meetings at Cable London/ Telewest (when I had a real job;-)  ) we used to introduce the woman from HR as 'Jan from Human Remains'!  Everyone laughed, including her.

How about...Belongers?

I am a great believer in Transformational Language and Change....and this combines the two.  Change our terminology and our language will transform our people.


Tuesday, 28 January 2014

U and I


What is The Difference between U and I…?

You may think I am speaking about you, and me...but I mean the two letters U and I.

Those two letters have an even greater effect on you than you think they do.

There is just one letter making the difference between Growth and Limit and it is the letters U and I.

Constructive: having or intended to have a useful or beneficial purpose.

Constrictive: To restrict the scope or freedom of; to hold in or inhibit; limit

Growth comes from helping others. By doing so, we are helped too.

Growth comes from showing others the way. By doing so, we find additional ways.

We Limit our potential by being self-centred, holding back, secretive and not sharing.

When we are Constructive, we are building, we are positive, we are creative.

When we are Constrictive, we are stagnant, we are negative, we are blinkered.

One letter makes all the difference between being Constructive and Constrictive.
Always say ‘U’ and not ‘I’…

Let's take this to the next stage...

Have you felt CONSTRICTED in life, in your job, at any time?

How have you broken free from constraints?

How has being in a constrictive environment affected you?  How did you remain Constructive?

Join Kate Nasser, the People Skills Coach (T) on Twitter, THIS Sunday February 2nd 2014 where we are co-hosting the TWEETCHAT...
'Are You Constructive or Constrictive with Others?'
10am EST 3pm GMT...Got Twitter? Get #PeopleSkills !


Or click on the People Skills badge on the left panel, or click on Kate Nasser's Name in the recommended websites.


Wednesday, 15 January 2014

Live How You Want to!!


Here's a quote that I think it sums up one of the main tenets of Human Potential Technology.

"Live your life and forget about your age. That's the difference that makes the difference. A lot of people live their age and forget they have a life!"
David Moore - HPT-Transformation

It was an off the cuff remark at a Seminar in London a while back and when I said it I had to stop and think about it because it came from nowhere.  I said it without thinking, and as I hadn't heard myself say it before I was stunned...Just one of those occasions when, during a seminar, a question is asked and I make some sort of comeback.

But how right is it? 

Have you noticed when you watch a movie from the 60s or 70s how old people look? You think they are 50 but actually they are 35!  All the joy and energy seems to have been sucked out of them and they are older than their years.

They are not living life, they are living their age. 

If you are going to do that why not pick an age that you really enjoyed and stick at it.  OK you may get older on paper but in the mind, where it really counts, you can stay 35 or whatever age is right for you.

Don't succumb to getting old in thought. 
It will not serve you.
Take risks, take chance and seize the moment.

Remember, it is NEVER too late to have a happy childhood! ;-)

Tuesday, 14 January 2014

That is SO Last Year!

LOST:  
One whole year. Last seen 2 weeks ago.
Contains uncertainty, lazyness
and no achievement.

Could you have placed an ad like that today?

Be ashamed!! Be very ashamed.

If you could place that advert...What are you doing about it?

Plan ahead!
You don't need me to tell you that you are standing on the starting line of a whole new opportunity.

Do you wake up and say 'I can't wait to be mediocre today!'. I could tell you to get a life but why don't you just change the one you have?

Is watching TV tonight going to earn you money? Get you new clients? Expand your business? NO! So...Turn off the tube and get out your Notebook/ Planner!

If you are sitting there thinking 'Wow, a whole year ahead of me'? I guarantee you will soon be saying 'Where the hell did that year go?' And you will say that sooner than you think!  In fact, it will be this time next year, and you will be saying 'I have a whole year ahead of me' again before you know it.

Hold on...ARE you sitting there thinking 'Wow, a whole year ahead of me'?  Have you ever had a deja vu feeling?  Didn't you say that LAST year?

What are you doing today? Watching TV? Reading the paper? Sleeping? Get off your ass and make a 'to do' list and put a deadline in there!

2014 can be the best year ever if you make it so!

Go and do it. I am!

"Those who merely hope that conditions will change, their luck turn, or the person in front of or above them will either retire or die, merely see instead the success of those who grasp the opportunity of the present.  If you waste the valuable time of today, awaiting the promise of tomorrow, you will inevitably, always, be second the the person who, yesterday, prepared for today!" Dave Moore

Wednesday, 8 January 2014

Should you Reset or Reboot for 2014? NEITHER!!!!


The answer is: UPGRADE!

But first...

Stop!
Don't fall for it.

Don't fall for New Year Resolutions.

Think about it....where are you right now?  I don't mean your location on the grid or where you are in your home or office but where are you in LIFE?

Are you happy in that location or....yeah right ;-)

So you assume that this is the time to change your life, go for what you really want, and get the life you want.

Didn't you say that last year?

And the year before that?

Do I need to write that sentence again?

There is a definition of madness or insanity which is: doing the same thing again and again expecting a different result.

I admit we all do it..
"I am going to:
...drink less,
...exercise more,
...eat healthier,
...watch less TV,
...spend more time with family,
...yadda yadda yadda,
...stop saying yadda yadda yadda..."

After a while....we slip back to our default setting.  We have all the best intentions but its not enough.

It seems to me that the reason we fail so epically sometimes on resolutions is that we are throwing a behaviour or desire into a mix where it cannot survive.  I knew someone who had a very large fishtank.  He ordered salt and gravel from Fiji.  Water solutions from Hawaii.  He ordered fish from all over the world because he liked their color or shape(!) Two guys would come to the office and change the water and treatments on this massive tank and they would be shocked at the mix of fish inside it.  Fish with eels with crabs etc.  He never, ever, thought about whether they were compatible with each other.  He bought a lot of fish.  In the end, he had hardly any, because some ate others, some merely killed others, some just died thru being in the wrong mix.  I am not going to tell you who the guy was!

Resolutions are like that.  We have to change a lot more than just ONE behaviour to make our life better.

If you reset or reboot your life then all you are doing is tidying up and streamlining.  it's good, and it works to some extent but it doesn't bring the big rewards that you deserve.

The only way to truly advance, to move forward and be a person who does stuff that you never did before is to go for the UPGRADE.

If you upgrade you are saying to the world, the universe and everyone in it 'That was me THEN.  This is me NOW.  The New, Enhanced, Future-proof version of me.'

If you attempt to run the latest version of MSWord on a previous version of Office you are in for a surprise.  For one thing, the upgraded version cant be run on the old software and secondly, it won't recognise the document.

If you try to play a Blue-Ray DVD on a basic DVD player....no chance.

All of those examples will work the other way around though. Because the operating system or unit is MORE POWERFUL than the old version.  It recognises the old version.  It has been UPGRADED.
The upgraded MSWord system will upgrade the older document so it can be read.
The Blue-Ray DVD will play an older DVD.
You can even put a PlayStation 1 game into a PlayStation 4 console.

Why? Because it is the more powerful version of the old version.

The Upgraded you can still relate and interact with whatever you choose to from your past but to move forward you need to upgrade yourself and step into the future right now.

You must upgrade everything around you, important to you, loved by you, used by you, into the new mindset and decide right now that you are no longer going to be that person who 'settled' and 'accepted' what was handed to you.  You are now going to go out and get what you want, do what you want, be what you want with and for who you want.

Want to start a new business - do it.
Want to add a few zeros to your bank balance - do it.
Want to travel- do it.
Want to be happy- do it.
Want to make 2014 your best year and the start of everything- Do it!!

Don't just do one thing, do a lot.  Do them well.
Grab every opportunity that comes your way.  If opportunity doesn't come your way, go and find it.  Go IT'S way and Surprise it.

You have every single resource you need to achieve what you want inside you.  You have the key.  The key is the desire, the will, to change.  Decide to make that change, that upgrade, and use the skills that you have that have lay dormant inside you, untapped until now.

Life does not get better by chance, luck, resolutions or hope...it gets better by CHANGE.

Make 2014 the year of CHANGE, the year of YOUR change, and I will see YOU at the top!