Have you ever read a blogpost and wondered what it was about and then, for whatever mysterious reason, you started to think differently and realise that this is one of the most relevant blogposts to you? I find that when I, think about the other possibilities these teachings will give you, and you open your mind, to me, its as if this is going to help take you to the next stage.
I am an NLP trainer. That’s what I do. I teach people how to sell, how to Firewalk, Glasswalk and smash wood Karate style. I also teach people how to communicate effectively. I have done this all over the world. In all that time I see a common thread throughout all of those seminars. The successful people are the ones who study, listen, learn and then go out and do it. The Mega-Successful are the ones who do it without thinking about it. It has become part of them, its second nature. That's because they do it on a consistent basis.
Selling is the oldest profession there is. Some say prostitution is the oldest but even that is someone selling themselves to someone else. Wherever you are reading this, if you are at work, in an Internet café or at home, look around you. Apart from nature, everything you see was sold to someone by someone else. If you have skill in selling you can sell yourself and that’s what we do with the opposite sex. We put ourselves in the market and we make ourselves a hot commodity. We have all the tools we need within us.
I run workshops and seminars on a number of subjects and all the time I hear of ‘rejection’ and ‘objection’. These are related, you reject because you object and vica versa. In a sale, in a pick up, if they object, what do you do? I spent years looking at and learning different ways to counter objections, what to say when they say...etc. These were really good but they didn’t work well in the real world and then I had what is known as a BGO. A Blinding Glimpse of the Obvious.
Objections are state related. I hear people like Richard Bandler and Ross Jeffries saying the same thing. If you don’t like the answer, change the state! The objection is now over there, they can’t cling onto it. The point I am making is that in the teaching of all of these tools and techniques you have to take them on and make them second nature.
The basic facts of approaching anyone, be it conversation or to sell them something (yourself?) are:
- Never take the first response as being something written in stone.
- Anything they offer is a toy for me to play with. Like Jeet Kune Do.
- They can say and do what they want; I control where my energy goes.
- Anything they offer is information I can use.
- 90% of people are running on autopilot 90% of the time.
- Never attach excessive meaning. Nothing has any meaning except the meaning you give it
- Never think by your own agenda. Don’t bait your hook with food you like.
That is the 7-step rule that will allow you to walk through the world getting the best of anything you want. Do not make the mistake that these tips are exclusively for sales. You can use them on anyone to get anything. You will have the tools and techniques at hand and you can call on them without thinking. Once you have the techniques, don’t stress about them. Don’t even attempt to remember them. Just use them. It’s like a new language. After a while you think in two ways.
We have 2 brains. We have 2 different kinds of intelligence; rational and emotional. When we cannot decide we say we are ‘in 2 minds’. The techniques you are learning form a part of your EQ. That’s your Emotional Intelligence. Your EQ is more important than your IQ. The IQ test may help you get a job but your personal EQ will help you keep it. A high IQ is around 135. Many people with IQ’s of 135 and above work for people with IQ’s of 100 or less. Why? Because the person with the high EQ, the one who knows how to relate to other people, talk to other people and interact with other people in a manner they like, is always going to be way ahead of the game and have people following him, more so than the guy who knows how long it will take for two men to fill a bath up with water in the dark at 22,000ft. Because they interact naturally and in a manner that is second nature.
I always, now, describe the techniques, tools, patterns, closes, etc as a raft. A raft is very handy if you want to get from one side of a river to another. You may want to get from the unsuccessful side of the river to the side where infinite power and success are available. But once you have reached the other side, you no longer need the raft itself. In fact, if you want to grow, and continue your journey, you have to leave the raft behind. The challenge that we have, as humans, is that we tend to fall in love with the raft.
We start to think, “This raft has been good. It’s a useful raft. It’s served me well. This raft is tip top!”
But if we hang on to the raft, or the teachings, they will become a hindrance. No words, anyone’s, can help you more than you. You must do that yourself.
The trick is this. By integrating the raft, or what we took on board while on the journey, into our being and into our unconsciousness it becomes second nature and we see opportunity, we hear opportunity and we create opportunity all around us. Being awake to openings, opportunity and life is the best way to be. Your energy level is high, your awareness is at peak level and your state is at a higher level. You become a magnet for opportunity. It seeks you out. And once you become one with the teachings, you will always be ready.
Each of us has a success blueprint already embedded in our unconscious mind. This blueprint, more than any one other thing, will determine your destiny.
We live in a world of duality: up and down, light and dark, hot and cold, in and out, fast and slow, left and right. These are a few examples of the thousands of opposite poles. For one pole to exist, the other pole must also exist. You cannot believe in God without believing in the devil, and vice versa.
Consequently, just as there are outer laws for living, there must be inner laws. The outer laws include things like knowledge, Skill, state management and belief strategies. These are essential. But the inner game is just as important.
Having top quality tools is imperative to a carpenter but he must be able to use those tools in a masterful fashion.
It’s not enough to be in the right place at the right time. You have to create the right time AND be the right person in that right place at the right time.
So who are you? How do you think? What are your beliefs? What are your habits and traits? How do you really feel about yourself? How confident are you in yourself? How well do you relate to others? How much do you trust others? How do you rate your ability? How do you rate your ability to act in spite of fear, worry, inconvenience and discomfort?
Can you act or function at your highest level even when you are not in the mood?
The bottom line is that your character, your thinking, and your beliefs are a critical part of what determines the level of your success and how your blueprint pans out...
Stuart Wilde puts it this way: "The key to success in anything is to raise your own energy; when you do, people will naturally be attracted to you. And when they show up, bill them!" For ‘bill them’ substitute with ‘sell them’.
Most people do not reach their full potential. Most people are not successful in what they choose to do.
Research shows that 80% of individuals will never be free in the way they would like to be.80% of people will never claim to be truly happy.
The reason is simple. Most people are on autopilot. They are unconscious at the wheel. They work, think and behave on a superficial level of life – based on what they can see. They live in the visible world.
Imagine a tree. Let’s suppose that this tree represents the tree of Selling. On this tree are fruits. In life, our fruits are called our results. So we look at the fruits (our results) and we don't like them; there aren’t enough, and they are too small, or they don't taste good.
What do we tend to do? Most people put more attention and focus on the fruit, the results. They will clean the fruit, spray the fruit and nurture the fruit.
But what is it that actually creates those particular fruits? It's the seeds and the roots that create the fruit.
It’s what's underground that creates what's above ground.
It’s what's invisible that creates the visible.
So what does that mean?
It means if you want to change the fruits, you have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.
In my experience, what you cannot see in this world is far more powerful than anything you can see.
Try electricity. You can’t see it, but you can see its effect when you turn on a light. How do you know electricity exists? Because of the light? Put your finger in the socket and test if it really exists. I guarantee your doubts will disappear.
You may not agree with the statement about what you can’t see being more powerful than what you can see but you will suffer if you don't apply this principle.
Why?
The law of nature determines that what's underground creates what's above ground. As humans, we are a part of nature, not above it. Consequently, when we align with the law and work on the roots – our inner game – our life flows smoothly and we are a magnet to opportunity. We bear fresh fruit.
We do not work or exist on just one plane of existence. We work in four.
Physical – Mental – Emotional – Spiritual
Most people never ever realise that the physical realm, what we call reality, is only a printout of the other three.
Let’s suppose you have written a letter. You hit print and out it comes. Whoops...typo! You hit delete on the pc and press print again. Out comes the letter with the same typo.Whoa! I just deleted that. You now study the six hundred page manual called effective deleting. You now have the tools and the knowledge you need. You hit delete. You hit print. You look. Shit! The typo is still there.The real problem cannot be changed in the printout, the physical world; it can only be changed in the program, the mental, emotional and spiritual world.
Whatever results you are getting, be they great or bad, positive or negative, always remember that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. If things are not going well in your outer game, it’s because things are not going well in you inner game.
It’s that simple.
What you hear, you remember; what you see, you remember; what you do, you understand. Forget the magic bullets, potions, punches and pills you seek. You are just victim of Loch Ness Monster disease.
‘I have heard of this (pitch, pattern, command) but no one has seen it or heard it. It's a great (pitch, pattern, command) which, if you say it, you get everything you want. If I could get hold of that I would make it'.
"Can you teach me that magic punch because I could beat Bruce Lee/ Mike Tyson etc blah blah?"
Wrong. I can teach you that magic punch but unless I teach you how to box or how to do Kung Fu your would be on the floor before you landed it.
Once you sort out your inner game and realise that you control your energy, your state and your focus then you will get what you want. You will have your cake and you will eat it. What is the use of having cake if you can’t eat it anyway? What are you supposed to do with it? Put it on the mantelpiece and look at it?
There is a major difference between rich people, wealthy people and poor people just as there is between Dynamic-Life people, auto pilots and AFC's...(Average Frustrated Chumps)
Dynamic-Life people believe `I can have my cake and eat it'.
Auto pilot people believe `Cake is too rich, so I will only have a little piece'
AFC's don't believe they deserve cake, so they order a donut, focus on the hole and wonder why they have nothing.
If you want to step up to the Dynamic-Life Academy challenge....stay tuned.....
See it as the ULTIMATE CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE AND SUCCESS...And the best part of a circle is....? BEING ON THE INSIDE!
