Autopilot Responses...

So many people walk around on Autopilot. So many people have an Autopilot response to questions or situations.

In the Seduction Community, STILL headed by it's creator Ross Jeffries, one of the main tenets is, 'Never take a first response as written in stone. It's just an autopilot response and it is also something to play with.'

It's just a response that emanates from where that person is right now.'

What do you say to a Big Issue seller?
What do you say to Jehovahs Witnesses?
What do you say to a clipboard carrying student grinning maniacally at you in a shopping center?

What do you say to yourself in day to day situations?

How many times have you pitched a product or service only to hear, 'we are not interested!' That's just a weak, pointless, gutless, cop-out of an autopilot response.

All objections are state related.
Some of the state related objections are autopilot responses.

If you want examples of Autopilot responses ask for a regular size quarter pounder meal in McDonalds and you will be asked. 'Is that a large meal?'

Ask for a portion of fries and you will be asked, 'Do you want fries with that?'

I had builders working in my home and deciding to buy the 6 of them lunch, and being a very classy kind of guy, I drove to McDonalds. Remember this...
1.It was empty.
2.The car park was empty.
3. Two staff behind the counter watched me get out of the MooreMobile and walk in alone.

"Hi, can I have three quarter pounder with cheese meals, all with Cokes. Two Big-Mac meals with Fanta orange and a Chicken Sandwich meal with a Lemonade. Also can I have 6 Apple Pies please."

And then auto pilot took over and the girl asked, "Is that to eat here?"

I considered a barrage of answers but settled for, "Do you REALLY think that would be possible for me?"

Coming to her senses she shook her head and laughed.

It's dangerous to think that sometimes people are walking around on this Autopilot setting. Worse, are the ones who are driving!

How many times have you driven somewhere and not remembered the journey?
How many times have you driven your usual route to work only to realise that THAT was the day you were going somewhere else on the way to work first?

If you catch yourself responding to something in the same way you have always done, think for a second. What would happen IF you did something different?

The lights may be on but...is anyone at home in your head?

Disengage it!

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Have you ever read a blogpost and wondered what it was about and then, for whatever mysterious reason, you started to think differently and realise that this is one of the most relevant blogposts to you? I find that when I, think about the other possibilities these teachings will give you, and you open your mind, to me, its as if this is going to help take you to the next stage.

I am an NLP trainer. That’s what I do. I teach people how to sell, how to Firewalk, Glasswalk and smash wood Karate style. I also teach people how to communicate effectively. I have done this all over the world. In all that time I see a common thread throughout all of those seminars. The successful people are the ones who study, listen, learn and then go out and do it. The Mega-Successful are the ones who do it without thinking about it. It has become part of them, its second nature. That's because they do it on a consistent basis.

Selling is the oldest profession there is. Some say prostitution is the oldest but even that is someone selling themselves to someone else. Wherever you are reading this, if you are at work, in an Internet café or at home, look around you. Apart from nature, everything you see was sold to someone by someone else. If you have skill in selling you can sell yourself and that’s what we do with the opposite sex. We put ourselves in the market and we make ourselves a hot commodity. We have all the tools we need within us.

I run workshops and seminars on a number of subjects and all the time I hear of ‘rejection’ and ‘objection’. These are related, you reject because you object and vica versa. In a sale, in a pick up, if they object, what do you do? I spent years looking at and learning different ways to counter objections, what to say when they say...etc. These were really good but they didn’t work well in the real world and then I had what is known as a BGO. A Blinding Glimpse of the Obvious.

Objections are state related. I hear people like Richard Bandler and Ross Jeffries saying the same thing. If you don’t like the answer, change the state! The objection is now over there, they can’t cling onto it. The point I am making is that in the teaching of all of these tools and techniques you have to take them on and make them second nature.

The basic facts of approaching anyone, be it conversation or to sell them something (yourself?) are:

• Never take the first response as being something written in stone.
• Anything they offer is a toy for me to play with. Like Jeet Kune Do.
• They can say and do what they want; I control where my energy goes.
• Anything they offer is information I can use.
• 90% of people are running on autopilot 90% of the time.
• Never attach excessive meaning. Nothing has any meaning except the meaning you give it
• Never think by your own agenda. Don’t bait your hook with food you like.

That is the 7-step rule that will allow you to walk through the world getting the best of anything you want. Do not make the mistake that these tips are exclusively for sales. You can use them on anyone to get anything. You will have the tools and techniques at hand and you can call on them without thinking. Once you have the techniques, don’t stress about them. Don’t even attempt to remember them. Just use them. It’s like a new language. After a while you think in two ways.

We have 2 brains. We have 2 different kinds of intelligence; rational and emotional. When we cannot decide we say we are ‘in 2 minds’. The techniques you are learning form a part of your EQ. That’s your Emotional Intelligence. Your EQ is more important than your IQ. The IQ test may help you get a job but your personal EQ will help you keep it. A high IQ is around 135. Many people with IQ’s of 135 and above work for people with IQ’s of 100 or less. Why? Because the person with the high EQ, the one who knows how to relate to other people, talk to other people and interact with other people in a manner they like, is always going to be way ahead of the game and have people following him, more so than the guy who knows how long it will take for two men to fill a bath up with water in the dark at 22,000ft. Because they interact naturally and in a manner that is second nature.

I always, now, describe the techniques, tools, patterns, closes, etc as a raft. A raft is very handy if you want to get from one side of a river to another. You may want to get from the unsuccessful side of the river to the side where infinite power and success are available. But once you have reached the other side, you no longer need the raft itself. In fact, if you want to grow, and continue your journey, you have to leave the raft behind. The challenge that we have, as humans, is that we tend to fall in love with the raft.

We start to think, “This raft has been good. It’s a useful raft. It’s served me well. This raft is tip top!”

But if we hang on to the raft, or the teachings, they will become a hindrance. No words, anyone’s, can help you more than you. You must do that yourself.

The trick is this. By integrating the raft, or what we took on board while on the journey, into our being and into our unconsciousness it becomes second nature and we see opportunity, we hear opportunity and we create opportunity all around us. Being awake to openings, opportunity and life is the best way to be. Your energy level is high, your awareness is at peak level and your state is at a higher level. You become a magnet for opportunity. It seeks you out. And once you become one with the teachings, you will always be ready.

Each of us has a success blueprint already embedded in our unconscious mind. This blueprint, more than any one other thing, will determine your destiny.

We live in a world of duality: up and down, light and dark, hot and cold, in and out, fast and slow, left and right. These are a few examples of the thousands of opposite poles. For one pole to exist, the other pole must also exist. You cannot believe in God without believing in the devil, and vice versa.

Consequently, just as there are outer laws for living, there must be inner laws. The outer laws include things like knowledge, Skill, state management and belief strategies. These are essential. But the inner game is just as important.

Having top quality tools is imperative to a carpenter but he must be able to use those tools in a masterful fashion.

It’s not enough to be in the right place at the right time. You have to create the right time AND be the right person in that right place at the right time.

So who are you? How do you think? What are your beliefs? What are your habits and traits? How do you really feel about yourself? How confident are you in yourself? How well do you relate to others? How much do you trust others? How do you rate your ability? How do you rate your ability to act in spite of fear, worry, inconvenience and discomfort?

Can you act or function at your highest level even when you are not in the mood?

The bottom line is that your character, your thinking, and your beliefs are a critical part of what determines the level of your success and how your blueprint pans out...

Stuart Wilde puts it this way: "The key to success in anything is to raise your own energy; when you do, people will naturally be attracted to you. And when they show up, bill them!" For ‘bill them’ substitute with ‘sell them’.

Most people do not reach their full potential. Most people are not successful in what they choose to do.

Research shows that 80% of individuals will never be free in the way they would like to be.80% of people will never claim to be truly happy.

The reason is simple. Most people are on autopilot. They are unconscious at the wheel. They work, think and behave on a superficial level of life – based on what they can see. They live in the visible world.

Imagine a tree. Let’s suppose that this tree represents the tree of Selling. On this tree are fruits. In life, our fruits are called our results. So we look at the fruits (our results) and we don't like them; there aren’t enough, and they are too small, or they don't taste good.

What do we tend to do? Most people put more attention and focus on the fruit, the results. They will clean the fruit, spray the fruit and nurture the fruit.

But what is it that actually creates those particular fruits? It's the seeds and the roots that create the fruit.

It’s what's underground that creates what's above ground.

It’s what's invisible that creates the visible.

So what does that mean?

It means if you want to change the fruits, you have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.

In my experience, what you cannot see in this world is far more powerful than anything you can see.

Try electricity. You can’t see it, but you can see its effect when you turn on a light. How do you know electricity exists? Because of the light? Put your finger in the socket and test if it really exists. I guarantee your doubts will disappear.

You may not agree with the statement about what you can’t see being more powerful than what you can see but you will suffer if you don't apply this principle.

Why?

The law of nature determines that what's underground creates what's above ground. As humans, we are a part of nature, not above it. Consequently, when we align with the law and work on the roots – our inner game – our life flows smoothly and we are a magnet to opportunity. We bear fresh fruit.

We do not work or exist on just one plane of existence. We work in four.

Physical – Mental – Emotional – Spiritual

Most people never ever realise that the physical realm, what we call reality, is only a printout of the other three.

Let’s suppose you have written a letter. You hit print and out it comes. Whoops...typo! You hit delete on the pc and press print again. Out comes the letter with the same typo.Whoa! I just deleted that. You now study the six hundred page manual called effective deleting. You now have the tools and the knowledge you need. You hit delete. You hit print. You look. Shit! The typo is still there.The real problem cannot be changed in the printout, the physical world; it can only be changed in the program, the mental, emotional and spiritual world.

Whatever results you are getting, be they great or bad, positive or negative, always remember that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. If things are not going well in your outer game, it’s because things are not going well in you inner game.

It’s that simple.

What you hear, you remember; what you see, you remember; what you do, you understand. Forget the magic bullets, potions, punches and pills you seek. You are just victim of Loch Ness Monster disease.

‘I have heard of this (pitch, pattern, command) but no one has seen it or heard it. It's a great (pitch, pattern, command) which, if you say it, you get everything you want. If I could get hold of that I would make it'.

"Can you teach me that magic punch because I could beat Bruce Lee/ Mike Tyson etc blah blah?"

Wrong. I can teach you that magic punch but unless I teach you how to box or how to do Kung Fu your would be on the floor before you landed it.

Once you sort out your inner game and realise that you control your energy, your state and your focus then you will get what you want. You will have your cake and you will eat it. What is the use of having cake if you can’t eat it anyway? What are you supposed to do with it? Put it on the mantelpiece and look at it?

There is a major difference between rich people, wealthy people and poor people just as there is between Dynamic-Life people, auto pilots and AFC's...(Average Frustrated Chumps)

Dynamic-Life people believe `I can have my cake and eat it'.
Auto pilot people believe `Cake is too rich, so I will only have a little piece'
AFC's don't believe they deserve cake, so they order a donut, focus on the hole and wonder why they have nothing.

If you want to step up to the Dynamic-Life Academy challenge....stay tuned.....

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"How much do you charge for a training program?"

I get asked that a lot.

My answer?

"A lot more than it's worth!"

(no, not really, just checking you were concentrating!)

My standard answer?

"I have no idea!  It depends on the client."

Each person or company is different.  Each challenge is different.  Each personal or company plan is different.  Each group is different, be it in requirement or size.

I will tell you one thing though.  I am at the top end of the scale.  I don't charge less that £5000 for a days training for a group of 50 people.  And that's just a seminar.  Add an experiential event into the mix and it goes up.

Do others charge less?  You bet.

Do I compete with them?  You bet I don't.

Why would I compete.  I am in business not the 100 metres!  I know what I am worth.  I know what the clients get from it.  I know the amount of work involved prior to the event.  I know the experience I have and the knowledge I am imparting. 

I know I am giving people and companies nuclear missiles of information for firework rocket prices.

Over the years I've spent hundreds of hours explaining to salespeople the difference between Features and Benefits.

A Feature is what something does.
A Benefit is what that something does for you.

You dont buy wellington boots or gloves.  You are buying dry feet and warm hands.

The other differentiator is Price over Value.

The cost of something is irrelevant if you see the value in it. 

The price is what it costs.  The value is what you attach to it by knowing what it will do for you, or how good it will make you look, or how much you need it.

Go into Louis Vuitton.  Tell them you want a Filofax.  It costs £500.  Ask them for a discount and see what happens.

Never ever has anyone got a discount in Louis Vuitton unless it suits Louis Vuitton!

If you sell on price you will get caught up in a bidding war.

You will devalue your product and you have no guarantee the potential client will buy from you.

The danger is that if you say "It will cost you £5000" and the potential client says no, and after some haggling and negotiation you offer it for £3000, one thought will bounce around your potential clients brain like a pinball.

"What were you going to do with that other £2000 you were gonna con out of me?"

State your price.  Thats how much it is!

Never compromise and never devalue your self, your company, or your product!

Can I drop my price?  Of course I can.

Will I drop my price?  Of course I won't.

I am not in the market to compete.  If I drop my price how do I know the 'competition' won't drop their price further?

Why would I want to be in a competition?  We at the Moore Consortium do not see competition.  We don't recognise it.  For us to have competition would mean that others are doing what we do in exactly the same way as we do it.  We do what we do and we charge what we charge...Because we're worth it ;-)

If you go in for a competition are you in it to be a competitor?  No!  You are in it to win it!

Cut your price and you will never be able to charge that person full price again.

It's far better to educate your client in just WHAT they are getting for the price.  Value, value, value.  Quality, quality, quality.  And do it until they think two things.
1. The think they 'must have this'.
2. They can't believe they get all of that for 'only that much'.

Pay peanuts and you get monkeys!
Pay for quality and you get it.  And you value it!

What Happened?

So, how is your year going?

What happened to those New Year Resolutions?

New Year's Resolutions are a great way to set your intent for a positive, fulfilling year of growth and accomplishment. But, on the other hand, when the year ends, if you haven't completely fulfilled your resolutions, it can be frustrating.

This usually happens because New Year's resolutions are often too vague, and don't include practical steps that lead to a clearly defined goal.

So today, by all means, look at your usual big-picture resolutions. But, in addition, I'm going to suggest you make some sub-resolutions.  Especially if you New Year Resolutions haven't...how shall we say...kicked in yet ;-)

Each of these sub-resolutions is designed to give you a long-term benefit (some of them even for a lifetime) with a minimum amount of time and effort. In fact, each of these sub-resolutions can be completed in anything from a few minutes to, at the very most, a few hours. And they're all either free or very cheap .For most of you, many of these items fall into the category of things you've "been meaning to do." Since chances are that you have already accomplished at least a few of the items on the list below, there's no reason why you can't take half a day this week and get at least six more of the items below done.

So, in the interest of the betterment of your future, the management of your life, and the fresh start of a new year that hasn't happened yet, here are

THINGS YOU CAN DO IN ONE DAY TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE

1. Register your full name as a web domain if you haven't yet. You never know when you're going to want your personal website. If www.[yourname].com is already taken, don't worry - there are alternatives. For example, who owns jamesjoyce.com? Answer: A bar in Dublin beat the author's estate to it. But there are always other options, like hyphenating the name and getting james-joyce.net or james-joyce.org (check those sites now if you'd like), or choosing less common TLDs (or end letters) like .ws or .me.

For more information, homestead.com is a great site to register and design your own website.

2. Call your mobile phone provider. Ask if you can get a better calling plan based on your usage. This way you can afford to do the next item on this list.

3. Subscribe to a newspaper or magazine. Choose a topic that you don't know about - be it politics, fashion, culture, or technology- and sign up for the best periodical covering that topic. Rather than choosing the most popular magazine, select one that offers the most in-depth and interesting coverage, like Wired for technology or Foreign Affairs for politics or Mental Floss for culture. Yes, you could read it all online, but it's great to have a physical magazine to read when you're on the subway or on an aeroplane or waiting in line somewhere.

4. Get a passport if you don't have one. If yours has expired, get it renewed now. You never know when that great travel opportunity is going to occur, and you don't want to get stuck at home while your friends are at some great concert at the Acropolis in Greece.

5. Back it up. Most people don't take the time to do this, and regret it later. So copy your entire hard drive onto an external drive or USB stick immediately; if possible, download a program like Acronis True Image that will simplify the restoring process and regularly make backups (or for Mac owners, start using Time Machine or SuperDuper). Also backup your mobile phone, PDA, and any other personal-information-storing device.

6. While you're at it, make photocopies of your credit cards, passport, drivers license, birth certificate, and other important papers. If you keep a journal or anything similarly irreplaceable, photocopy that. Keep these in a safe deposit box, parent's house, locked file cabinet, or any other secure location, preferably outside your own house. They'll be invaluable in the event of theft, loss, fire, or any other unplanned incident.

7. Look through your refrigerator and cabinets. Read the labels on the food. Stop buying anything high in saturated fats, trans fats,cholesterol, and sodium. And start shopping healthier today.

8. Get business cards. Don't have a business? It doesn't matter. Sites like vistaprint.com will send you 250 free ones (though there's a shipping fee of under £6). Never hurts to look professional

9. Learn how you work: I'm often asked what books I found the most useful for learning Sales, NLP and Business. I will be posting my recommendations soon.

10. This is not for everyone, but some of you--and you know who you are--definitely need to do this: Throw out all your socks. Every last one. Now go buy new pairs that actually match and don't have holes in them. You'll feel like a new man. Remember, get black socks. White socks are for athletic activities only. I don't want to catch any of you guys here wearing white socks in the boardroom!

11. Buy a suit. (Or a dress if you're a woman.) But don't just get any suit or dress. Get one that's slightly closer to the size you want to be this year, whether it be a little bigger or a little smaller than your current measurements. Try it on every Saturday morning as a reminder to yourself to get in shape this year; until, one day, it fits perfectly, and you wear it out and feel like a million pounds

12. Decide to actually become a millionaire.

The Human Virus

You know what I mean.  In fact, some people reading this will know that it's them I am talking about!

It's the people who are nice to your face but behind the scenes they are working against you.

It's the scum that see you as a threat but are unaware that you see them as irrelevant.

Occasionally they break cover and you can squash them like flies.

Like a virtual STD that can infect your computer with a Malware or Spyware virus and log everything you do online.

Some of the inadequates out there can be sitting in their hovels getting massive joy from what all 'normal' people would call trivial matters.

You just don't know people do you....or do you?

I am a great believer in the Law of Attraction.  Therefore, these bastards are being attracted to me, by what I do or by my success.  Or maybe by my past contacts.

These trolls, inadequates, low-lifes are attracted to successful people like moths to a flame.  They believe that your success may rub off on them 

They also believe that they can steal your ideas.  I know someone who used to do that regularly.  He was always complaining about people eating from his table and taking the food out of his mouth.  Always food metaphors.  I remember showing him something I had created and written and within an hour it was on his website and on his wall like it was his own property.

They probably set out with great intentions to be successful but, for whatever reason, they failed.  So they think,  "why not steal from someone who can actually 'do it'?"

Chances are they just gave up in the past, never knowing how near they were to success.  But they think, "why work or strive for something when you can steal it or claim it as your own idea?"

These are just wannabe's that are drawn to you and circle like a moon orbiting a planet.  They are locked on you. To your energy, enthusiasm, determination and vision.

And if you are someone who never, ever, gives in, no matter what is in your way, then they will hang around hoping you will take them through with you.  Hiding in the shadows, masking themselves with false online profiles or just blatantly exposed, they are nothing more than scum.

As I said, a virtual STD infecting you online or even over the phone, calling your clients and lying to them.

Banish them.  Block them. Never engage with them.  Cripple them.  Over time...destroy them.  They have no idea of your plans...until you strike, months or years  later.  Revenge is best served cold eh ;-)

They would fare better if you could agree on one thing: 
If they stop lying about you...you will stop telling the truth about them!

And the truth about them is far darker, far more unpleasant and far dirtier than anything they could cook up for you!  That's reality.  And reality doesn't lie.

But console yourself with one thought...if they can spend time monitoring you, following you, commenting about you, calling people about you...they are scared of you.

And also...the fact they are doing this means they are not busy.  You are.  So you must be doing something right lol.

Those Were The Days

Ages ago I got an email from Maureen Pinwill who used to be the events organiser for Jersey Friends of Childline, and a great job she did too. Maureen booked us to provide a Firewalk at Fort Regent in St Helier. She and her husband made us very welcome. Having kept in touch over the years I found this email from her the other day. I re-read it and thought I would share it. It's a very interesting description of how life in the 1500's impacts our lives and our language today...

The next time you are washing your hands and complain because the water temperature isn't just how you like it, think about how things used to be. Here are some facts about life in the 1500's:

These are interesting...

Most people got married in June because they took their yearly bath in May, and still smelled pretty good by June. However, they were starting to smell, so brides carried a bouquet of flowers to hide the body odour. Hence the custom today of carrying a bouquet when getting married.

Baths consisted of a big tub filled with hot water. The man of the house had the privilege of the nice clean water, then all the other sons and men, then the women and finally the children Last of all the babies. By then the water was so dirty you could actually lose someone in it. Hence the saying, "Don't throw the baby out with the bath water."

Houses had thatched roofs-thick straw-piled high, with no wood underneath. It was the only place for animals to get warm, so all the cats and other small animals (mice, bugs) lived in the roof. When it rained it became slippery and sometimes the animals would slip and off the roof. Hence the saying "It's raining cats and dogs."

There was nothing to stop things from falling into the house. This posed a real problem in the bedroom where bugs and other droppings could mess up your nice clean bed. Hence, a bed with big posts and a sheet hung over the top afforded some protection. That's how canopy beds came into existence.

The floor was dirt. Only the wealthy had something other than dirt. Hence the saying "dirt poor."

The wealthy had slate floors that would get slippery in the winter when wet, so they spread thresh (straw) on floor to help keep their footing. As the winter wore on, they added more thresh until when you opened the door it would all start slipping outside. A piece of wood was placed in the entranceway. Hence the saying, "thresh hold."
(Getting quite an education, aren't you?)

In those old days, they cooked in the kitchen with a big kettle that always hung over the fire. Every day they lit the fire and added things to the pot. They ate mostly vegetables and did not get much meat. They would eat the stew for dinner, leaving leftovers in the pot to get cold overnight and then start over the next day. Sometimes stew had food in it that had been there for quite a while. Hence the rhyme, "Peas porridge hot, peas porridge cold, peas porridge in the pot nine days old."

Sometimes they could obtain pork, which made them feel quite special. When visitors came over, they would hang up their bacon to show off. It was a sign of wealth that a man could "bring home the bacon." They would cut off a little to share with guests and would all sit around and "chew the fat."

Those with money had plates made of pewter. Food with high acid content caused some of the lead to leach onto the food, causing lead poisoning death. This happened most often with tomatoes, so for the next 400 years or so, tomatoes were considered poisonous.

Bread was divided according to status. Workers got the burnt bottom of the loaf, the family got the middle, and guests got the top, or "upper crust."
Lead cups were used to drink ale or whisky. The combination would sometimes knock the imbibers out for a couple of days. Someone walking along the road would take them for dead and prepare them for burial. They were laid out on the kitchen table for a couple of days and the family would gather around and eat and drink and wait and see if they would wake up. Hence the custom of holding a "wake."
England is old and small and the local folks started running out of places to bury people. So they would dig up coffins and would take the bones to a "bone-house" and re-use the grave. When reopening these coffins, 1 out of 25 coffins were found to have scratch marks on the inside and they realized they had been burying people alive. So they would tie a string on the wrist of the corpse, lead it through the coffin and up through the ground and tie it to a bell. Someone would have to sit out in the graveyard all night (the "graveyard shift") to listen for the bell; thus, someone could be "saved by the bell" or was considered a "dead ringer."

And that's the truth... Now, whoever said that History was boring ??!!
Educate someone...Share these facts with a friend

Who Am I?...

It's a difficult moment.  Someone approaches you, at a party or a function and asks that age old question...


"What do you do?"


Even on something like Twitter, I have online friends who ask.  For example, Mark, otherwise known as http://twitter.com/Scorpion760 writes occasionaly: 'Follow him but I don't know what he does'.


(by the way...if you are on Twitter...follow him - and I know what HE does)


So...


David Moore was born in the East End of London which, he says, explains EVERYTHING!. He was so surprised he didn't speak for a year and a half.


He is a Psychologist, Human Potential Technology Trainer, NLP Trainer, Firewalk and Glasswalk Trainer, Sales Coach and Business Agitator.


He has a PhD in Philosophy with a Major in Psychology and only uses his title ‘Doctor’ when booking a table in a restaurant, tickets at the cinema/theatre or to bypass a long check-in queue at the airport.


He has a reputation for leading people astray, or as he prefers to call it, giving them options.  He holds no guilt or conscience for this as it is always people who should have known better.  He is more than happy to make mistakes on any scale as he believes that this is the only way to grow.


On the subject of growth, he is living proof that black is not a slimming colour.  Knowing also that the camera adds at least 10lbs to the size of the subject he can regularly be seen watching his own seminars on DVD wondering how many cameras were actually on him. The last time he checked, there were at least six.


He was the most successful salesman Cable London produced. He was the only salesman to venture into Broadwater Farm, with scant regard to his own safety, or anyone elses, and over a two month period there became top salesman. He became national sales trainer when Telewest increased their share holding of Cable London and flew all over the country training staff from London to Dundee.  Occasionaly he used an aeroplane.


He has sold Timeshare, double-glazing, insurance, cable, satellite and Advertising. He has made many friends in the industry and, considering the list includes Timeshare, a few enemies.


He has been called a salespersons salesperson. He gives Value with every sale.


He has a delivery like a cross between a TV evangelist and a stand up comedian.


At Telewest he and the Sales Director underwent Psychometric testing and evaluation.
The Director was classified as “someone who could pour oil on troubled waters and calm fiery arguments”.
David was classified as “someone who would not only enjoy, but benefit, from a head on collision”.
It was suggested that he mediate at the Company employment tribunals.  Out of 18 he defended Cable London at he won 15 and lost one.  The other two were settled in the car park.


He is a qualified NLP trainer and hypnotherapist. He is also a qualified Firewalk and Glasswalk instructor.


He has created Human Potential Technology programs for hundreds of companies.


He also has private clients and assists them with Business Coaching and also uses Hypnosis to remove Phobias, Fears and Addictions.

His training seminars contain fresh ideas, different perspectives and raw language that will lead to expanded perceptions, new understandings and the destruction of limiting beliefs. These training seminars may irritate those suffering from excessive certainty, chronic egotism and overblown self-importance'


He has worked for and with some of the most brilliant, funny, intelligent, sick and twisted people you could imagine. He wishes some of them everything they deserve, and worships the ground coming to the others.


He has a very soft spot for a previous sales manager. It's behind the shed in his garden and easy to dig.


He is writing an autobiography to share his experiences and observations for the amusement of friends and strangers alike, for the sake of posterity, and for a Louis Vuitton bag full of cash. He plans to retire offshore to a hammock between two palm trees on a beach.


His hobbies are opening Mars bars underwater, getting children to run with sharp objects while playing with traffic, collecting books, aligator wrestling, avoiding depressing people and using creative sarcasm.


He enjoys multi tasking a wide variety of useless and pointless projects in the belief that by appearing busy he can pick and choose what to do next.  He is confident that after ten years this will one day be proved as a good career move.


He believes firmly that, in life, you only get out of it what you put in.  Each week he puts in £10 on the lottery.


Some of David Moore's Beliefs

1. If most people said what they were thinking they would be speechless!
2. Flying is simple. You just throw yourself at the ground and miss.
3. Life is a waste of time and time is a waste of life, so waste your time and have the time of your life !
4. There is a light at the end of every tunnel….just pray it’s not a train!.
5. Some say the glass is half full, some say the glass is half empty. I say “Are you gonna drink that?”
6. Everyone has a photographic memory… some just don’t have any film.
7. If you die in an elevator, be sure to push the UP button first
8. It is quicker to do something and then apologise than to get permission to do it in the first place
9. It is never too late to have a happy childhood
10. It is better to give than to receive.  This does not apply to Money though!
11. Never confuse activity with achievement
12. Never confuse feeling with thinking
13. Keep away from mood hoovers or energy vampires.  These people will bring you down.
14. Don't buy into other peoples bullshit
15. Pay no attention to what others think of you.  They are not qualified.
16. We are human beings but we succeed by doing
17. Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to act in spite of fear
18. Fear is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real.
19. Fear can also be anacronym for Fuck Everything And Run!
20. Fear is a darkroom where your negatives are developed.
21. Being good = Preperation.  Being bad = Preperation H
22. Have fun!  If you don't enjoy it, no one else will.

;-)

Calm Before The Storm

Some people!

I get emails asking me:
Have you stopped writing on here?  Err...No! ;-)
Are you ill? What?  Because I haven't posted for a couple of weeks?  (I don't 'do' illness!)
Are you doing something else?  As opposed to doing what I do?  Never!

It's amazing how a lack of input on a blog makes people think you have moved on...even only after a couple of weeks...

...so, No. 

I have not stopped writing on here ;-)
I have not been ill (just busy) ;-)
I would never do something other than what I do now!;-)))))


Things have been pretty quiet on this blog in February.  That has been because of work committments here at The Moore Consortium.

Having spent the last month working with some very interesting and diverse groups of people

I am going to be telling you some very interesting stories..... Stay tuned!

Love

Dave

Actions speak...

...'Louder Than Words' is a great book by Joe Navarro.

Who is Joe Navarro??

Not many can say they were personally approached to join the FBI, but this is exactly what happened to Joe Navarro while he was working as a police officer at the tender age of 23. He accepted their offer and became one of the youngest agents ever to join the renowned investigative agency.

Joe spent the next 25 years at the FBI, working both as an agent and supervisor in the areas of counterintelligence and counterterrorism. Through his work he was able to study, refine and apply the science of non-verbal communications. His acumen in this field and his success as a spy-catcher, led Joe to begin training FBI agents and the intelligence community.
Retiring from the FBI in 2003, and meeting overwhelming demand for his notable insights into human behavior, Joe has dedicated himself to speaking and consulting with major corporations worldwide.
Today Joe is recognized as one of the world’s foremost authorities on reading non-verbal communications and he is regularly interviewed on programs such as NBC’s Today Show, Fox News, ABC’s Good Morning America, CBS’ Early Show, and for publications such as The Washington Post and Psychology Today.

Well, that's him. 

The book I am talking about is called Louder Than Words.

According to Amazon:   "International bestselling author and behaviour expert Joe Navarro helps you successfully navigate the business world by understanding what your boss and coworkers are really thinking. Why is it that some people have all the elements of success education, skills, integrity, motivation but can't seem to move from effectiveness to excellence in their careers? Behaviour expert Joe Navarro reveals the long-sought answer. Louder Than Words teaches how to master nonverbal intelligence, the ability to interpret and use nonverbal signals in poker terms, 'tells' in business to assess and influence others. Drawing on his decades in the behavioural sciences, Navarro shows how to use his simple yet powerful 'comfort/discomfort' model to decode what's really being said at meetings, interviews, negotiations, presentations, business meals, and more, including the casual exchanges that often impact decisions and reputations. Jump-start your career as you discover how to: Read body language to understand what clients, coworkers, interviewers, or interviewees are thinking, feeling, or intending, and discern nonverbal cues of concern, disagreement, or doubt even over the phone. Master the all-important first impression and use settings, seating, and gestures to inspire and captivate. Recognise habits that send the wrong message, from nail biting to wearing inappropriate attire and see what posture, work practices, workspaces, and even electronic habits say about people. Become culturally aware and gender-sensitive, from best handshake practices to personal space preferences. Learn what the 'comfort dividend' can do for you and your business. Explore how the concept of 'curbside appeal' applies to you and your business, and can mean the difference between average and exceptional. Use Louder Than Words to close the deal, keep your customers, secure new ones, and lead your company with confidence. For job seekers looking to stand out from the pack, this book is your get-back-to-work bible."
To me, it's a work of art.  It's a very easy to read book which takes what some people would deem a difficult subject and turns it into something that anyone can understand.

There are countless observations and metaphors.  He talks of the Nixon/ Kennedy debate which everyone listening on radio thought Nixon had won. The larger, TV viewing audience saw a different debate from what was heard.

It condences all of the information you need to be able to read the body language, facial expressions and non-verbal communication of everyone in any situation. You not only get a better understanding of what is REALLY going on but also, it allows you to get the upper hand in numerous day to day situations.

The subjects covered range from the fundamentals of nonverbal intelligence to applied nonverbal intelligence, and includes sections on how you look, how you are perceived and also how your organization is perceived.

Your code of dress is analysed (put those sports socks back in the drawer!) and also how you talk on the phone and what your desk looks like!  He leaves no stone unturned.

This is not just a book for personal use.  It can be applied in the corporate world and has thought provoking ideas that will make you re-evaluate how you are promoting and running your company.

Once you have read it, every time you look at someone you analyse them.  You get to know the signs and the things NOT to do.

Warning!

Do NOT put your hands in your pockets

(unless you are getting your money out to buy this book!)

Joe Navarro can be found here:
Twitter: @navarrotells
Web: http://www.jnforensics.com/
Amazon: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Louder-Than-Words-Exceptional-Intelligence/dp/0061771392

POWER ANCHOR

Let's take a look at a powerful NLP technique you can use right now. I teach this one to people who are about to stand in front of groups and speak or who are going to be stepping on stage or who need a little boost.

 Here's how it works…

Think of three times in your life when you felt very powerful and in control. Write them down (one sentence describing each). Now stand alone in a room.

Think of the first situation. Recall it in full color with sound and anything else that could make it real to you. At the moment when you feel fully back in that moment, slap your left bicep with your right hand and say, "Power!"

Do this with each of the three memories. Remember, you want to anchor the feelings by slapping your left bicep when you feel the memory at its most intense moment.

In NLP, this process is called stacking anchors.

Now that you have the anchor installed, you can fire it off as needed. The next time you are in a situation requiring confidence, slap your left bicep with your right hand and say, "Power!"

Just as sure as Pavlov's dogs salivated when they heard that bell, you will feel confidence surging through you!

Try not.  Do, or do not.  There is NO try!  Do it!  And enjoy!

John Assaraf - The Answer

I have read John Assarafs book, The Answer and I highly recommend it.  Here is a very insightful interview from Success Magazine in 2010.  Buy the book, The Answer, TODAY and read it!

John Assaraf is here: http://www.johnassaraf.com/

Success Magazine is here:  http://www.successmagazine.com/


John Assaraf Has the Answer



How the self-proclaimed "Street Kid" took himself from the streets of Tel Aviv to entrepreneurial success.


K. Shelby Skrhak June 8, 2010

John Assaraf will tell you that achieving your goals and dreams is just a matter of believing you can and will do it. That’s how this New York Times best-selling author of The Answer took himself from the streets of Tel Aviv to the world stage of business and industry.

“Despite an early upbringing in war-ravaged Israel, where his childhood games were punctuated by gunshots and even bomb blasts, John turned away from the violence and ultimately created a life of incredible strength, contribution and love,” writes The Secret author Bob Proctor, in his foreword for Assaraf’s Having It All: Achieving Your Life’s Goals and Dreams.

When he was 8, Assaraf’s family fled the war-torn country for Montreal, where the outgoing boy went to work helping to support his family. While his friends were in class, Assaraf was often truant, delivering newspapers, picking up orders from the pharmacy or pressing clothes at the dry cleaner.

However, roaming the streets, Assaraf fell into a rough crowd of petty criminals, and found companionship and belonging in this small group of kids. “That’s where I got the nickname The Street Kid,” Assaraf says.
To help keep him out of trouble, his parents sent him to work at a Jewish community center across the street from their apartment. Assaraf grew to love the job, where he spent his evenings listening to rich and established gentlemen tell tales of their success. “They would talk about losing and making money, ill health, marital problems and infidelity, God, and a host of other things about which I could never hear enough,” Assaraf writes in Having It All: Achieving Your Life’s Goals and Dreams. “I learned that it was normal to have challenges, and that other families went through similar crises.”
This experience proved formative for Assaraf, who learned from these successful men and a string of other powerful mentors to develop his own strength and intuition.

Building Himself, Building a Fortune

Today a best-selling author, international speaker and featured expert on the critically acclaimed self-help film The Secret, Assaraf is no stranger to entrepreneurial success. With nothing but enthusiasm under his belt, he dove into a real estate career in the early 1980s—better known as a recession.

“Interest rates in the real estate market were 21 percent,” says Assaraf, who at age 19, made an impressive $30,000 in his first year selling real estate. The next year, he made $150,000. “I was young and naive and nobody told us that was not normal. I did well despite what was happening around me.”

Applying what he had learned in his early real estate career, Assaraf helped take RE/MAX of Indiana to more than 1,500 sales associates who generate more than $5 billion a year in sales.

Then, during the Internet boom, Assaraf developed the marketing and sales strategy that generated more than $30 million in revenue within 12 months for Bamboo.com. Bamboo then merged with IPEX and went on to become the world’s leading provider of imaging infrastructure for the Internet.

More recently, Assaraf founded OneCoach, a company that helps small-business owners and entrepreneurs grow their business revenues.

Assaraf, who’s built four multimillion-dollar companies in the last 20 years, says recessions like the one he experienced in the ’80s offer entrepreneurs opportunities to fix what’s broken and then promote the unique benefits of what they have to offer.

Starting June 28, John Assaraf will team with SUCCESS magazine for the six-week Entrepreneur Challenge to help would-be business owners take the next step and guide existing entrepreneurs in finding renewed inspiration. Based on the principles in his successful books, Having It All and The Answer, Assaraf will write twice-weekly blog posts to share the secrets of success as a business owner.

The Street Kid’s Tips for Success

Assaraf says business owners who enter entrepreneurial ventures with the right tools have what it takes to innovate, communicate and achieve business success in any economy.

1. Start with the right mindset. Assaraf says, when it comes to our mindsets, we’re often victims of conditioning and genetics. “The latest research suggests that 96 to 98 percent of all our thought patterns and behaviors are based on our conditioning,” he says.
When faced with negative circumstances, some people are conditioned to move forward despite them. They can go through turmoil and emerge successful. They see the world differently than those who allow outside circumstances to control their thinking. It’s important to realize you have no control over bad things happening, he says: “The only things we can control are our own thoughts and actions.”

2. Think of circumstances differently. Having the right mindset requires that entrepreneurs, in particular, not look at the recession as a reason for failure or lack of opportunity, but rather as a reason for innovation. The entrepreneur should ask the important question, Why is a particular business failing and how can I take a different approach to make it work?
“Whenever there is a recession, which I prefer to call a reorganization, innovation starts to happen. When innovation starts to happen, we start to think about different ways to serve the consumer’s needs,” Assaraf says. “That’s when you start to develop a brand around resolving the problem and creating products and services that people need during those tough times. Times that are challenging will actually bring out the weaknesses of the masses.”

3. Next step: Fill a need. Before launching any kind of marketing campaign for a new (or existing) business, ask this question first: Is there really a need in the marketplace for your product or service?
The adage, Build it and they will come, is 1970s and ’80s thinking, Assaraf says. Today, it’s, Find out what they want; then build it.
Once you build it, make people want it because of the experience, Assaraf adds. When filling a need, realize that the client experience is even more important than the product. A great example is Starbucks. Starbucks doesn’t sell coffee; Starbucks sells an experience. “That’s why they’re able to charge $4 for a $.10 cup of coffee,” he says.

4. Ask yourself, what makes you different? One of the most important elements of developing a successful marketing strategy is to understand what it is about your product or service that makes it unique. You can compete on quality, price or experience. Assaraf warns, however, that competing on price is often a losing battle. Rather, most business owners should look at how they can create a positive and memorable experience for their customers.
Entrepreneurs who do not find and promote a special niche will get lost in a crowded marketplace. “[If] they don’t know how to differentiate themselves from their competition, they become a commodity versus an experience. When you become a commodity, you will always be fighting on price. When you become an experience for people… they don’t compare your product or service to everybody else’s because the experience is so much greater than the product or service itself,” Assaraf says.

5. Clear the clutter. In this media-saturated world, your charge, says Assaraf, is to create a lasting impression on the consumer’s mind that differentiates you from everybody else.
One of Assaraf’s clients, a dentist, partnered with a local limousine company to provide transportation for teenage patients. The dentist absorbs the $25 it costs to pick up and bring home teenagers for their dental appointments. Marketing the time-saver to parents was a big hit, and students quickly spread the word about riding to the dentist’s office in a limo. A good marketing concept built on creating a memorable and positive experience, successful promotion and word-of-mouth led, in this case, to an explosion of business during the next 12 months.
“In today’s world, when we’re getting 50,000 messages a day, from… billboards, television, radio, e-mail, print, calls, etc., we have to differentiate ourselves. We have to do something that’s unique and different so that we stand out from everybody else who is yelling and screaming, ‘Pick me! Pick me!’ ” Assaraf says.

The Iron Lady - Movie Review

I saw the movie 'The Iron Lady' yesterday. I am glad that I did because I have waited to see this from the very first moment I heard that it was in production.

I have enormous respect for Margaret Thatcher (MT) and have read her memoirs. My only regret is that I have not met her...yet!

Although the movie is well made it isn't about MTs political history and achievements.
It is about old age, dementia and memories.

If you are looking for political intrigue, you will be disappointed.
But, if personal anguish is your idea of a great night at the movies then you will absolutely love this film.

I hit my twenties during the 80s.  It was a great time of opportunity for people if they were willing to get up off their backsides and do something.  We had the Yuppie, Loadsamoney, and a big bounce back from a crippling recession.  Monopolies were gone and opportunity was everywhere.  The clothes were...weird, and so were some of the haircuts but if you lived through it...you loved it.  It was a time of Wall Street, Dealers, and mobile phones that looked like house bricks.
 
I also remember the strikes, the bags of rubbish on the streets because of dustmen strikes, the unions striking, the economy, the high unemployment, the IRA bombings, the riots.  In fact, if you substitute Al Quaeda for IRA, it's not much different today.
 
If you had no idea of those times, and/or no experience of those things happening you would have left the cinema wondering WHY there were people throwing bags of rubbish onto the street, why people were banging their fists on MTs car and why (or maybe even who) blew up the Grand Hotel in Brighton during a Conservative party conference.
 
None of these events are explained.  They are memory flashbacks in the movie, flashbacks by a woman who is remembering events in her past.  She knows why they happened so the director/ writer thinks we do too and no explanation is needed.
 
The Falklands war is treated as a catalyst of power in MTs tenure as Prime Minister.  Her decision and her order "Sink it!", when referring to the Belgrano, is a very exciting moment, played with great tension though, I am sure, the actual event took a lot more decisive thought than in the movie.  The rationale, regarding the game of chess being played at sea with battleships as the chess pieces around the Falklands was not fully explained and the decision to sink the Belgrano could be seen in the movie as a gratuitous one.  It most definitely was not.
 
The Director, Phillida Law (Mamma Mia), has described much of the film as a work of imagination.  I would think 'lack' of imagination more the point.
 
This movie focuses on an elderly lady, wandering around her police protected, bullet proofed windowed, apartment in Chester Square, Belgravia, looking for her long dead husband Denis.  He pops up in a pink turban, or walking like Charlie Chaplin.  He is a ghost, or rather a figment of MTs imagination.  He is used as a foil for MT to look back at a life full of decisions, strategies and challenges.  It's fun but after a while, annoying. 
 
Also no mention is made of his business acumen.  Denis Thatcher, already a millionaire when he met and married MT, financed his wife's training as a barrister and a home in Chelsea; he also bought a large house in Lamberhurst, Kent in 1965. His firm employed 200 people by 1957, but he sold it to Castrol on 26 August 1965 after suffering a mild nervous breakdown in 1964. He received a seat on Castrol's parent board, which he maintained when Burmah Oil took it over in 1966. He retired from Burmah in June 1975, four months after his wife won the Conservative Party leadership election.In addition to being a director of Burmah, he was chairman of the Atlas Preservative Co, vice-chairman of Attwoods plc from 1983 to January 1994, a director of Quinton Hazell plc from 1968 to 1998 and a consultant to Amec plc and CSX Corp. He was also a non-executive director of Halfords in the mid-1980s.  He calls himself a successful businessman in the movie but how many people know what he achieved?  In the movie he is demoted to nothing more than the adult equivalent of a childs imaginary friend.
 
I can only com parethe performance by Leonardo de Caprio in Aviator, a movie about Howard Hughes, with the performance of Meryl Streep.  De Caprio gives an outstanding performance and anyone like me with knowledge of Hughes can appreciate the portrayal by de Caprio and also be aware of the preparation it took to achieve the performance of a lifetime.  To such an extent it is like watching secret home movie footage of Hughes.
 
Upon leaving the cinema one could only talk about how brilliant Hughes was, how weird he was, what a strange and damaged man he was, how achieved so much whilst suffering from OCD.
 
Here, with the Iron Lady, one comes away from the cinema talking of one thing only: Meryl Streeps performance.  As amazing and spellbinding as it is, the performance is what is being talked about in bars and restaurants post movie and in the press.
 
But, what of the woman herself, the subject matter, Baroness Thatcher?
 
If you have only heard of MT at school you would not know of the power struggles, the political machinations, the feminist issues, the decisions, the speeches....
....Surprisingly no mention of "The Lady Is Not For Turning" or "The Mummy Returns"....
...because there is no substance or explanation of the key and iconic moments that were the make or break of her as Prime Minister.
 
This is a great movie to see if you know about MT and/or lived through the 80s.
If you know nothing about MT you will learn nothing about her from this movie apart from she became an MP, she became PM, she became old and forgetful.

Meryl Streep gives a performance that will undoubtedly lead to an oscar.

But, again, what of the subject matter herself? 
For who she is, for who she was, for what she achieved...Margaret Thatcher deserves more than this.  Much, much more.

Mayans? Schmayans!

2012 is the year the world ends.

2012 is the year the Mayans say it's going to be 'game over'.

Errm...

Actually:

2012 is a year of great opportunity.

Can you imagine believing the rubbish about the end of the world only to find that you sold your business and your home and spent all the money for nothing when, surprise, you wake up next morning and you are still here?  And, what's more, so is everyone else?


It's New Years Day today.  What are you doing?

LOST:  One whole year.  Last seen yesterday.  Contains uncertainty, lazyness and no achievement. (could u place an ad like that? Be ashamed!!  Be very ashamed)


The Mayans said the world will end in 2012.  If it does,it does.  But, if it doesn't?  What condition will your life be in the day after?  Plan ahead!

Do you wake up and say 'I can't wait to be mediocre today!'. I could tell you to get a life but why don't you just change the one you have?


Is watching TV tonight going to earn you money? Get you new clients? Expand your business? NO! So...Turn off the tube and get out your Notebook/ Planner!

If you are sitting there thinking 'Wow, a whole year ahead of me'?  I guarantee you will soon be saying 'Where the hell did that year go?' And you will say that sooner than you think!




What are you doing today? Watching TV? Reading the paper? Sleeping? Get off your ass and make a to do list and put a deadline in there!

The Mayans were wrong.

This can be the best year ever if you make it so!

Go and do it.  I am!

Happy New Year x

2012

A happy new year to you all.

May you get everything you wish for, attract, and manifest in 2012

David Moore

Jeremy Kyle and the Christmas Sell-Out

A new low was hit on the Jeremy Kyle show today.  That actually takes some doing when you have a TV program filled with pikies, diddycoys, social security scroungers, numptys, liars, cheats, prostitutes, drug addicts, wife beaters, psychopaths, sociopaths, delinquents, illegal immigrants and cowards.

I am a pretty haphazard viewer of the show.  If I am at home I watch it and laugh.  Like catchphrases, Kyle has a few things he has to say in every show like:

• Put something on the end of it! (audience applauds)
• You're a disgrace Madam.
• You're the daddy.
• Are you working?
• How are you gonna pay for the child?
• I and every other tax payer is paying for your drink/ drugs/ child (delete as applicable)
• You need a size ten up the backside.
• A real father would WALK those ten miles every day.
• Get off your backside and get a damn job.
• You should have thought about that before you slept together.
• You are a really nasty person.
• You shut up, you shut up, you shut up, you listen.
• Be quiet, instantly.
• Oh, your getting angry now are you?
• Get this off my stage.
• You want to have a go at me now do you?

One thing amazed me more than anything.  It was the fact that Kyle is angrier, ruder and more confrontational than his 'guests' yet he is affronted when anyone else gets angry.  One rule for Kyle, one rule for everyone else.  It's OK for him to behave like that but...not them.

The 'guests' have catch phrases too:

• Basically.
• Literally.
• He/She/I turned around and said.
• At the end of the day.

The belief here is that by sprinkling your sentences with 'literally' and 'basically' it gives the impression you have a large vocabulary or are more educated than you really are.  Saying things like 'I was literally on the phone' or 'basically it was not me' gives a rather different impression.  Basically, why would anyone, at the end of the day, turn around and literally say those things?

Or they repeat the question.
"Why did you send that text?"
"Why did I send that text?"
"YEEEEEESSSSSS!!!"

I know he is a reformed gambler.
I know he still has a fetish for licking his mobile phone.
I know he hates social networking.
But, what I didn't know about Kyle was how two faced he was!

Today, after a couple of days giving spa breaks to parents of disabled or ill children and toys to the children themselves he shot himself in the foot.

A few months ago there was a family on there, one of the many tattooed, pikie, inbred versions.  The mother was a hooker, the daughters had been told that the man they thought was their father wasn't their father, and he, having heard he was one of about 5 potentials, decided to leave and met a woman and had a family with her.  He had not had contact with the daughters for 15 years.

If people don't get in touch for 15 years, there is a reason.  Whatever that reason is, it's their reason and no one elses.  On the show they were arguing.  So much in fact that the 'father' sat outside with his wife rather than confront the daughters and their hooker mother.  At the end of the show, after Kyle had  discovered that there had been no contact, the hooker was not working and was claiming benefits, the 'father' was not working and claiming benefits, after much shouting, screaming and jumping up and down by Kyle, the DNA proved that the 'father' was the father of the two girls.

Today, Kyle got them back.  Not the hooker though.  She had probably dusted off the handbag and was taking advantage of the last minute Christmas rush.  The Father was back with the two daughters and they told the audience and Kyle how they were slowly rebuilding their lives and making up for time lost.

What happened next?

Kyle got two helpers out who brought on a child's scooter, thirty or so DVDs, a DVD player, a Nintendo Wii with games....WTF WTF WTF?

What happened to:

• Are you working?
• How are you gonna pay for that?
• I and every other tax payer is paying for you
• You need a size ten up the backside.
• Get off your backside and get a damn job.

Jeremy Kyle you are a joke, the biggest joke of Christmas and every day of the year.  You have really lost the plot.

When you consider the people up and down the country who cannot afford to put a meal on the table, or buy their kids presents, or even pay their bills...you reward a scumbag family that you humiliated and made the audience laugh at on a previous show with over £1500.00 worth of freebies.

When Kyles assistants wheeled out the freebies, the three pikies smiled, they looked eagerly at the scooter, DVDs, Wii with games and controllers, DVD player and all the other stuff and I could see one thing flashing through their minds. It wasn't gratitude. It wasn't humility. It wasn't thankfulness.


What was it that was flashing through their minds? It was this:

Time for a taste of your own medicine.  You are a disgrace Kyle.  Leave the TV screen instantly!  Click!

You can be who you want to be

Are you done with all of your holiday shopping yet? I’m taking off Friday for Switzerland again.  It has been a regular thing for a few years at Christmas. Wherever you’re going, I wish you a safe trip. And lots of great food, drink and good company!

What is on your Christmas list for Santa this year?  No matter what you ask for, the one thing you really need to ensure that next year you get exactly what you want will NOT come from Santa.  Nor will it come from anyone else!

 

It’s a gift you can only receive from yourself.

It’s something that none of us even think to put on a Gift List. How do you wrap a gift that makes it possible for you to be the person you want to be, so that you can do the things you want to do, that will let you live the life you want to live? Is there even such a gift? Is such a thing even possible?

 

YES. It does exist and it is possible. But it doesn’t come in the form of some program you get by attending a live event, an online webinar series, or from a product that has a bunch of CDs/ DVDs and a flashy workbook.

 

Thats the gift that “they” all want to give you.  It's not the gift you need.

All these events, teleclasses, home-study programs and the like, are about teaching you STRATEGIES, giving you some sort of plan that basically involves not doing what you’re doing now and instead, doing what they tell you to do.

 

And you know as well as I do, that there’s a lot of vigilance, discipline and will power that has to go along with it, or you aren’t going to be able to stick to it. How well has that worked for you in the past?

 

You need more than just a resolution to be successful

 

Only a relatively tiny number of people succeed with these programs and strategies over the long term, because they run out of discipline, will power and never-ending vigilance. They go back to doing what they were doing before, because that’s who they are and that’s what who they are does.

 

And this is why those plans, programs and strategies don’t work.

 

Great… so what does work?

 

What works is becoming a person who easily and effortlessly acts and behaves in a way that supports achieving your goals, because that’s who you are. Once you become a person who naturally makes choices
that are aligned with whatever goals you’re seeking to achieve, you don’t need willpower and discipline any more. You’ll make the most effective choices, because that’s what feels instinctively right to you.

 

What’s on your wish list?

• An ipad?
• A piece of jewellery?
• A new kitchen? 
• A new Car?
• Maybe even a trip to some warm Caribbean island for a week!
• A villa on a Greek island?

Or maybe you’re being more practical?

• Lose 20 pounds.
• Be more organized. 
• Break through the six-figure barrier into making seven figures.

And perhaps you know exactly what you need to do, or perhaps you’re still at the vague idea stage.

 

There is no shortage of people who have foolproof plans they guarantee will help you lose 20 pounds in 20 weeks eating whatever you want.
You can find 20-step teleseminar series that will teach you how to organizeyour home, your office and your life.
There are a myriad of programs that promise they have the secret that will enable you to create the right mindset for success.
There are a number of programs that promise to show you how, just by thinking about it, you can manifest or attract all manner of stuff into your life.

 

Why Don't These Strategies Work?

 

They don’t work because they’re STRATEGIES, they’re a plan, they’re another way of doing something that will hopefully be more effective than what you’re doing now.

But they all have the same premise:
1. Take Behavior A
2. Substitute it with Behavior B
3. You’ll supposedly get a better result.

 

That could work IF you can muster up the willpower and discipline to stick to it. But once you’re past that first rush of anticipation and excitement, it usually turns into a struggle, especially if you’re more comfortable with the way you’re accustomed to doing things. And whoosh! There goes that resolution out the window!

 

Great… so what does work?

 

What works is becoming a person who easily and effortlessly acts and behaves in a way that supports achieving your goals, because that’s who you are. Once you become a person who naturally makes choices that are aligned with whatever goals you’re seeking to achieve, you don’t need willpower and discipline any more. You’ll want to do the “right” things, because that’s what feels instinctively right... to you.