U and I

What is The Difference between U and I…?

You may think I am speaking about you, and me...but I mean the two letters U and I.

Those two letters have an even greater effect on you than you think they do.

There is just one letter making the difference between Growth and Limit and it is the letters U and I.

Constructive: having or intended to have a useful or beneficial purpose.

Constrictive: To restrict the scope or freedom of; to hold in or inhibit; limit

Growth comes from helping others. By doing so, we are helped too.

Growth comes from showing others the way. By doing so, we find additional ways.

We Limit our potential by being self-centred, holding back, secretive and not sharing.

When we are Constructive, we are building, we are positive, we are creative.

When we are Constrictive, we are stagnant, we are negative, we are blinkered.

One letter makes all the difference between being Constructive and Constrictive.
Always say ‘U’ and not ‘I’…

Let's take this to the next stage...

Have you felt CONSTRICTED in life, in your job, at any time?

How have you broken free from constraints?

How has being in a constrictive environment affected you?  How did you remain Constructive?

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Live How You Want to!!

Here's a quote that I think it sums up one of the main tenets of Human Potential Technology.

"Live your life and forget about your age. That's the difference that makes the difference. A lot of people live their age and forget they have a life!"
David Moore - HPT-Transformation

It was an off the cuff remark at a Seminar in London a while back and when I said it I had to stop and think about it because it came from nowhere.  I said it without thinking, and as I hadn't heard myself say it before I was stunned...Just one of those occasions when, during a seminar, a question is asked and I make some sort of comeback.

But how right is it? 

Have you noticed when you watch a movie from the 60s or 70s how old people look? You think they are 50 but actually they are 35!  All the joy and energy seems to have been sucked out of them and they are older than their years.

They are not living life, they are living their age. 

If you are going to do that why not pick an age that you really enjoyed and stick at it.  OK you may get older on paper but in the mind, where it really counts, you can stay 35 or whatever age is right for you.

Don't succumb to getting old in thought. 
It will not serve you.
Take risks, take chance and seize the moment.

Remember, it is NEVER too late to have a happy childhood! ;-)

That is SO Last Year!

LOST:  

One whole year. Last seen 2 weeks ago.

Contains uncertainty, lazyness
and no achievement.

Could you have placed an ad like that today?

Be ashamed!! Be very ashamed.

If you could place that advert...What are you doing about it?

Plan ahead!
You don't need me to tell you that you are standing on the starting line of a whole new opportunity.

Do you wake up and say 'I can't wait to be mediocre today!'. I could tell you to get a life but why don't you just change the one you have?

Is watching TV tonight going to earn you money? Get you new clients? Expand your business? NO! So...Turn off the tube and get out your Notebook/ Planner!

If you are sitting there thinking 'Wow, a whole year ahead of me'? I guarantee you will soon be saying 'Where the hell did that year go?' And you will say that sooner than you think!  In fact, it will be this time next year, and you will be saying 'I have a whole year ahead of me' again before you know it.

Hold on...ARE you sitting there thinking 'Wow, a whole year ahead of me'?  Have you ever had a deja vu feeling?  Didn't you say that LAST year?

What are you doing today? Watching TV? Reading the paper? Sleeping? Get off your ass and make a 'to do' list and put a deadline in there!

2014 can be the best year ever if you make it so!

Go and do it. I am!

"Those who merely hope that conditions will change, their luck turn, or the person in front of or above them will either retire or die, merely see instead the success of those who grasp the opportunity of the present.  If you waste the valuable time of today, awaiting the promise of tomorrow, you will inevitably, always, be second the the person who, yesterday, prepared for today!" Dave Moore

Should you Reset or Reboot for 2014? NEITHER!!!!

The answer is: UPGRADE!

But first...

Stop!
Don't fall for it.

Don't fall for New Year Resolutions.

Think about it....where are you right now?  I don't mean your location on the grid or where you are in your home or office but where are you in LIFE?

Are you happy in that location or....yeah right ;-)

So you assume that this is the time to change your life, go for what you really want, and get the life you want.

Didn't you say that last year?

And the year before that?

Do I need to write that sentence again?

There is a definition of madness or insanity which is: doing the same thing again and again expecting a different result.

I admit we all do it..
"I am going to:
...drink less,
...exercise more,
...eat healthier,
...watch less TV,
...spend more time with family,
...yadda yadda yadda,
...stop saying yadda yadda yadda..."

After a while....we slip back to our default setting.  We have all the best intentions but its not enough.

It seems to me that the reason we fail so epically sometimes on resolutions is that we are throwing a behaviour or desire into a mix where it cannot survive.  I knew someone who had a very large fishtank.  He ordered salt and gravel from Fiji.  Water solutions from Hawaii.  He ordered fish from all over the world because he liked their color or shape(!) Two guys would come to the office and change the water and treatments on this massive tank and they would be shocked at the mix of fish inside it.  Fish with eels with crabs etc.  He never, ever, thought about whether they were compatible with each other.  He bought a lot of fish.  In the end, he had hardly any, because some ate others, some merely killed others, some just died thru being in the wrong mix.  I am not going to tell you who the guy was!

Resolutions are like that.  We have to change a lot more than just ONE behaviour to make our life better.

If you reset or reboot your life then all you are doing is tidying up and streamlining.  it's good, and it works to some extent but it doesn't bring the big rewards that you deserve.

The only way to truly advance, to move forward and be a person who does stuff that you never did before is to go for the UPGRADE.

If you upgrade you are saying to the world, the universe and everyone in it 'That was me THEN.  This is me NOW.  The New, Enhanced, Future-proof version of me.'

If you attempt to run the latest version of MSWord on a previous version of Office you are in for a surprise.  For one thing, the upgraded version cant be run on the old software and secondly, it won't recognise the document.

If you try to play a Blue-Ray DVD on a basic DVD player....no chance.

All of those examples will work the other way around though. Because the operating system or unit is MORE POWERFUL than the old version.  It recognises the old version.  It has been UPGRADED.
The upgraded MSWord system will upgrade the older document so it can be read.
The Blue-Ray DVD will play an older DVD.
You can even put a PlayStation 1 game into a PlayStation 4 console.

Why? Because it is the more powerful version of the old version.

The Upgraded you can still relate and interact with whatever you choose to from your past but to move forward you need to upgrade yourself and step into the future right now.

You must upgrade everything around you, important to you, loved by you, used by you, into the new mindset and decide right now that you are no longer going to be that person who 'settled' and 'accepted' what was handed to you.  You are now going to go out and get what you want, do what you want, be what you want with and for who you want.

Want to start a new business - do it.
Want to add a few zeros to your bank balance - do it.
Want to travel- do it.
Want to be happy- do it.
Want to make 2014 your best year and the start of everything- Do it!!

Don't just do one thing, do a lot.  Do them well.
Grab every opportunity that comes your way.  If opportunity doesn't come your way, go and find it.  Go IT'S way and Surprise it.

You have every single resource you need to achieve what you want inside you.  You have the key.  The key is the desire, the will, to change.  Decide to make that change, that upgrade, and use the skills that you have that have lay dormant inside you, untapped until now.

Life does not get better by chance, luck, resolutions or hope...it gets better by CHANGE.

Make 2014 the year of CHANGE, the year of YOUR change, and I will see YOU at the top!