Wednesday, 16 May 2012
The ending is everything.
Plan it, consider all of the possibilities and permutations, all of the factors that could take the glory away from you and give the kudos to someone else.
Think far ahead and you will know when to stop.
When you have the vision and the intelligence to look ahead on your timeline and you plan your moves you will stick to the plan and not be tempted to improvise.
Get rid of anxiety and vagueness because these two weaknesses are the reason so many people fail to conclude ther actions successfully.
If you see the ending you will not deviate from it.
Tuesday, 15 May 2012
There is a saying that you should remember and hold dear. It's memory will serve you well.
"Shoot the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter". The Shepherd is a metaphor for your enemy, your agitator. The sheep are a metaphor for your agitators followers, believers, team.
You have to do this early. You must have seen the Alien films. They are great and I always get a kick out of watching them. Do you remember that scene in the first film when Cain (John Hurt) has that alien burst out of his chest?
I always think of how different it would have been if I had been on that spaceship. Just as the little alien runs across the table I would have twatted it with a sledge hammer and flattened it. Then, I would have said a line that would have been immortal: “If we had let that out of the room it would have killed everyone!”
The movie would have been over in a matter of minutes and the Alien would not have gone on a rampage, nor would the crew have been slaughtered.
In other words, do not wait for the trouble your enemy will surely cause to multiply.
Nor should you waste time negotiating with them.
You have to neutralize them, eliminate them, destroy them in order to cancel their influence.
If you strike at the source then the sheep will scatter.
If you do this the followers, believers, of your enemy will be disheartend and demoralised. You will upset the 'natural' rhythm and balance. Their center of gravity is gone. There is nothing left for them to orbit.
Monday, 14 May 2012
If you are successful, as you would want to be I am sure, your friends will be prone to envy.
In many instances it is advisable that you should hire a former enemy. They will be more loyal because they have a lot to prove.
You will also get true answers and advice.
If you have ever watched a TV talent show and heard a tone deaf singer you must have wondered who had told them they can sing and should go on the show. So, who would have told them they were great? Of course, their best friends!
You have more to fear from your friends than your enemies.
A friend of mine watches horror films and then tells me they are too scared to go to sleep in the dark so they leave the light on. They won't go to ghost hunting weekends or even have a seance.
I made it clear to them once, " It's not the dead you have to worry about, they can't hurt you...it's the living you have to watch out for!"
If you are starting a business or looking to recruit and one or more of your friends are available, it's likely that you would employ them. You know them. Why on earth would you employ a stranger when one of your friends could be working with you?
The fact is, you do not know your friends as well as you would think or believe you do. Friends agree with you. They tell you how great you are. Friends hide their unpleasant qualities so as not to offend. Brutal honesty is not as good as it sounds so you will never get it from a friend. If you DO, hold on to them, they are rare.
If you hire a friend you will soon discover some of these qualities and traits that have hitherto lain dormant.
You are to blame for this. You upset the equation. You upset the balance.
You are in business. Or, you want to be more successful generally. If you want a friend, get a dog.
Friendliness obscures things. It clouds. It obfuscates.
You have a real gold mine of talent at your fingertips, your enemies!
Never ever let the presence of your enemy unbalance you. you are better off working alongside, employing or even socializing with a declared opponent than not knowing whwer your enemies lie in wait.
Welcome conflict. It shapes you, your relationships, your business, and your destiny.
"A wise man profits more from his enemies than a fool does from his friends." Baltasar Gracián
Sunday, 13 May 2012
"Live your life and forget about your age. That's the difference that makes the difference. A lot of people live their age and forget they have a life!"
David Moore - Dynamic-Life Academy
It was an off the cuff remark at a Seminar in London this month and when I said it I had to stop and think about it because it came from nowhere. Just one of those occasions when, during a seminar, a question is asked and I make some sort of comeback.
But how right is it. Have you noticed when you watch a movie from the 60s or 70s how old people look? You think they are 50 but actually they are 35! All the joy and energy seems to have been sucked out of them and they are older than their years.
They are not living life, they are living their age.
If you are going to do that why not pick an age that you really enjoyed and stick at it. OK you may get older on paper but in the mind, where it really counts, you can stay 35 or whatever age is right for you.
Don't succumb to getting old in thought. It will not serve you.
Take risks, take chance and seize the moment.
Remember, it is NEVER too late to have a happy childhood! ;-)
Wednesday, 9 May 2012
What really is EQ, IQ and IC?
Your EQ is more important than your IQ. The IQ test may help you get a job but your EQ will help you keep it. A high IQ is around 135. A high EQ is immeasurable.
It is no surprise that there are many people with really high IQ’s working for people with really low IQ’s. The people with the low IQ also have a high EQ, Emotional Quotient, and this makes them the real leaders. They know how to get people to work together.
The high EQ people know how the whole game is played and they draw the best out of their people and they are not afraid to have the more ‘intelligent’ working for them.
Of course, the people with the high IQ know how long it takes two men to fill a bath with water halfway up a mountain in a thunderstorm but...that’s not going to improve business is it?
What would improve business?
Having the EQ skills to get the two guys to fill a bath with water halfway up a mountain in a thunderstorm in the first place!
Now although that is a great description of what EQ and IQ is (even if I say so myself ;-)) there is another definition of EQ, IQ and IC. What's more...it's probably the most important and life changing definition there is.
What if you are working at a company and things are not going your way. Or you may be doing something in your life but you just can't get it right. You can't achieve what you want to achieve. Do you give up? Do you continue to 'try' (yuck) but in your mind and heart you know that you have given up?
This is the new IQ in the world today. So many people IQ (I Quit). What's more, they have no idea how near to success they are when they do!
Are you the only person in your company, business, life, relationship that thinks IQ? I bet not. You see, it's contagious!
Like a virus it infects everyone until, before you know it, unconsciously, EQ (Everyone Quits!).
Commit to one thing, if you commit to nothing else, commit to this...
IC! This is the belief you need. Your IQ and your EQ is blown away by this.
IC = I Can!
Your IC level (I CAN) is always more important than the IQ level (I QUIT) and will stop the rot of EQ in its tracks. Defeat will never be an option. So when logic is trying to point out all the excuses and reasons tell that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you will fail, you will not succeed and you are useless to shut the fuck up.
Say to yourself: My IC is unbeatable. IC. I CAN!
"What are you doing today?"
"What are you doing today?"
There are so many opportunities for looking at the dynamics of interactions, I'm wondering what you will notice next and how you will make changes to it for yourself.
NLP is more about "process".
PureNLP is the website you want....http://www.purenlp.com/